Alexandre Cormont

Finding the one

She doesn’t love me

is she loves me

After a breakup, we can’t help but wonder, “how did I get here?” One minute, things seemed great, and the next minute, the woman of your dreams has exited your life, stage left. You wonder what drove her away; you wonder if she still loves you.

If you can relate to the above paragraph, and are currently asking yourself “why doesn’t she love me”, than this article is for you.

In this article, I’m going to address what is making you feel like ‘she doesn’t love me’, a few tips to identify whether or not she in fact doesn’t love you, and how you can improve your chances of getting her to love you back (or love you again).

5 tips to know that doesn’t love you

Understanding women is really tough, especially when it comes to determining whether or not they love you. Therefore, I wanted to put a few tips together to help you identify if the woman of your eye is viewing you as the man of hers, or if they don’t love you.

  1. One good tip to consider when trying to know if she doesn’t love you is if she wants to stay friends. When a woman in your life, primarily one that you love but haven’t dated in the past, says she wants to be friends, it likely means that she hasn’t developed feelings for you.

For those of you in this position, I would recommend being her friend, and using that friendship to showcase the attractive elements about yourself. Remember, these elements aren’t just relating to physical aesthetic, and also deal with your character.

If, however, you previously dated and now she wants to be friends, then while her feelings for you are obviously changing a bit (as feelings often ebb and flow throughout a longterm relationship of any kind) there is an opportunity for you to kickstart her love back up again. More on this later.

  1. Another way to identify that she doesn’t love you is if she’s in a committed relationship with someone else. After a break up, rebounds happen. For many, leaping into a new relationship can sound better than grieving in isolation, and so many woman and men alike use this approach to cope.

However, there is usually a stage where this new rebound either fades away, or the rebound becomes serious.

If your ex really invests in this new relationship, and so it develops into something she values, then it’s likely that she’s fallen out of love with you. Determining whether or not your ex’s new relationship is a rebound or not is a really tricky endeavor, and so I really ask (if you can help it) that you avoid thinking about that and spending time assessing their situation.

My reason for mentioning this is because by focussing on them, you’re indirectly preventing yourself from healing, and growth is such a critical element in once ability to get their exes back. If you are one of the many readers trying to ultimately rekindle with your ex, then I really do recommend that you avoid keeping tabs on her and whoever else she’s spending her time with – it’ll only drive you insane and stop you from focussing on your own personal development.

  1. A third tip to know if she no longer loves you is if she refuses to reply to any sort of outreach. If she doesn’t reply to your texts, calls, social media messages, emails, etc than this is a sign that she’s not in love with you. This tip is tricky, because I am also a firm believer that just post breakup, her desire to avoid you is normal, there will be a point where it’s just an indicator that she doesn’t want you around her anymore.

An example of this tip is if it’s been several months after the breakup, and you send a casual message, and she’s still not responsive.

* Remember, if she isn’t responsive, it doesn’t mean you should try harder. On the contrary! If she’s not replying to you, you shouldn’t be reaching out. It means she needs more time.

  1. If she’s telling her closest friends that she doesn’t love you, it likely means she doesn’t.

Women as a sex love to congregate with one another, and share intimate ideas and feelings. This being the case – the things they communicate to their dearest friends is likely an accurate depiction of what’s going on inside their heads.

If your woman of interest is telling her best friends that she’s not in love with you, then it’s something to take into consideration when trying to decide whether or not she loves you.

  1. A final way to know if she doesn’t love you is if she’s asking you advice about other people that she’s expressing interest in. If spending time with her turns into you giving her love advice, than chances are that she’s not viewing you as a partner in the long-run.

If the above situation is happening with you, here’s my advice : don’t make it a big deal. If she asks you for love advice, I invite you to passively give it to her and then change the subject. After the encounter, go home and strategize on how you can attract her. If you immediately freak out and tell her you don’t like it, she will likely become less attracted to you. Remember, if she’s telling you about someone else, it’s likely because she doesn’t know it’s hurting you!

She doesn’t love me but I love her : how can I change that

If you feel like she doesn’t love you, don’t feel discouraged, as there are multiple ways to learn how to seduce a woman, and how to be loved by a woman in interest for you.

When it comes to “how to make her love me?”, the first thing to consider is what she likes. What is her ideal partner? Are you this person? If you aren’t, WHY?

In order to attract her, you must learn how she thinks. This holds true for any partner that you’re interested in. You can’t trick someone into loving you, but can you show them that you’re the person they should be loving!

  1. To start, confidence is a huge point of attraction for women. It is likely that she will be more attracted to a person who is confident instead of a person who is timid or insecure. Therefore, when you spend time with her, make sure to show her your confident self!
  1. Just like anyone, women are really attracted to FUN! So, when you’re talking with her, spending time with her, or even wondering what to post on social media to get her attention – anything that is FUN will work. At the end of the day, everyone is excited by a fun person, and people gravitate toward fun people! Why? Because who doesn’t want to have fun!

When thinking of where to take her to attract her, make sure to keep fun in mind! It works, trust me.

  1. A final tip on how to make her love you is by illustrating a similarly between your common life goals. What I mean by this is: women are attracted to people who enjoy similar things, have similar goals or objectives, and carry similar values. So, if you want her to consider you as a long-term partner, always remember to showcase that you two carry common life goals. This will show her that you’re someone she will enjoy spending time with for a long time, and not just right now.

Why my girlfriend doesn’t love me anymore ?

If your girlfriend doesn’t love you anymore, don’t lose hope. I invite you to take a look at the above paragraph, and use those time as a guideline on how to light the spark of your relationship again.

Just because your girlfriend doesn’t love you, doesn’t mean she can’t again. It’s very normal (despite what the movies show) for relationships to go through rough patches. If you’re in one, its OK, just get out of it. You can do so by following tips like having fun and being confident. Try this consistently for a couple of months, and see where it takes you.

If you’ve read this article, and are still telling yourself, “she doesn’t love me anything” and “there’s no hope for my situation”, I invite you to leave a comment for us to review.

We want to help you achieve your goals and spend time with the woman you love most. We’re firm believers in the potential of change and growth in love, and we’d love to support you in whatever is happening in your life.

No matter the issue, make sure not to rush the process. Love is a marathon.

Coach Nat

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Getting back with your ex

My ex wants to be friends!

stay friends with ex

How familiar are you with the following scenario: You’re in a semi long-term committed relationship with someone… and then you break up. If you’re the one ending the relationship, you might feel guilty. On the other hand, if you’re the one being broken-up with, you feel caught off guard, maybe slighted, and possibly hurt and betrayed. And to lighten the blow, you or you’re newfound ex states that they want to be friends. END SCENE.

So you’re down one romantic, sexual relationship. But hey! You gained a friend! A friend that you’ve shared a certain kind of intimacy with, who you’ve seen naked, who told you things they never told anyone else before, who you took on romantic dates, for whom you bought gifts and presents that represented a bond more special than your other relationships… starting to sound messy, right?

Accomplishing the mental and emotional switch from romantic partner to platonic friend can be complicated at best, and problematic at worst. Humans are creatures of habit. And breaking a habit, whether it be mental, physical, or emotional (in this case all three) requires a lot of energy, focus, and dedication. So at the end of the day, will all this effort even be worth it if your ex wants to be friends?

Why does my ex want to be friends?

We must first examine intentions behind exs wanting to be friends post-break up, and these can run the gamut. Maybe the person being broken up with isn’t ready to completely let go and thinks the only way a rekindling is possible is if they stay in the picture, even if it’s in the peripheries. Maybe the heartbreaker in this scenario has no intention of following through with their offer of friendship and is only trying to prevent being witness to tears of heartache. Maybe one or the other isn’t ready to fully commit to a monogamous, two-person relationship and just wants the ex to be readily available when he or she is ready to settle down.

Who knows? It all comes down to how honest and open a person wants to be with their needs and wants.

Whatever the reason, the intention – whether it be morally honest, or morally dubious – will be the most important factor in determining whether being friends with your ex is a good or a bad idea. Other factors come into play as well. For example, a study once found that women take it hardest at the beginning but have an easier time getting over guys in the long term, while the reverse is true for men as they experience less hurt at the onset of a break up, but never fully recover from it.

So, men! Don’t be surprised if you find yourself having stronger feelings for her than she does for you after you’re well down the path of friendship. If you happen to find yourself in a situation like this, it may make you think twice about continuing a friendship with your ex. But, again, this is only one example.

My ex wants to be friends: Pros & Cons

So let’s do the math. What’s are the up and down-sides to be friends with your ex? I like to cover the cons first to get the negative out of the way.

Cons when my ex wants to stay friends

  • Without a certain required level of maturity, continuous contact and interaction with your ex may not allow you to move on healthily from them and the relationship
  • Future significant others may not be comfortable with this friendship and doubt whether either of you is truly over the other – especially if the friendship is successful
  • The adjustment period may be difficult and painful as both parties come to terms with the new realities of this arrangement
  • You may not know if you are truly over your ex until they start dating someone else – which would be totally in their right since you are “just friends”. This might blindside you with feelings

Pros when your ex wants to be friends

  • Emotional growth and resiliency. If you can healthily and successfully accomplish this, it will validate your maturity and ability to have perspective on a complicated matter
  • You’ll have a friend with whom you are exceptionally close with and can vouch for you with other potential mates.
  • If you see yourself being romantically involved again with your “friend” in the future, keeping them close will help you insure this happens, and probably bring you closer on a deeper level
  • Side-stepping negative sentiments and feelings from an ended relationship. You can’t be friends with someone you dislike or feel unkindly towards. A decision to move forward as friends shows that there are genuinely no hard-feelings or animus between the two of you

The above are just some quick, general, off-the-cuff points to consider when making your list of pros and cons. Some of the above may apply to you. Some may not. And there also might be some points that are more specific to your unique situation.

The above are just some quick, general, off-the-cuff points to consider when making your list of pros and cons. Some of the above may apply to you. Some may not. And there also might be some points that are more specific to your unique situation.

My Ex Wants to Stay Friends: How can we do this healthily?

All this is easier said than done, of course. It might not be as easy as one would think for you to look this person with whom you shared all this intimacy in the eyes and pull the “Let’s-be-friends” trigger. For some, this could work in theory, but not in practice. However, it is not impossible! So here are a few do’s and don’ts.

  • Do not get involved in each other’s new romantic relationships. If you do talk about it, say only positive things and do not ask each other for or give each other advice if either one of you is experiencing a problem in your relationship because it would be based off your mutual romantic history
  • Keep your jealousy in check… if it does surface.
  • Make sure you two are perfectly clear and on the same page about how you feel towards one another. Honesty doesn’t change because you’re now friends instead of lovers
  • Do not compare yourself to your ex’s new significant other
  • Do not bring up your past romantic relationship unless used as an example to illustrate an unrelated point
  • Do not assume you are more important than anyone else in your ex’s life simply because you two shared a romantic history
  • Do not treat your ex any more special than you treat your best friends

My Ex Wants to Be Friends, But I Want More!

Being friends with your ex is not for everyone. You need a certain amount of audacity and bravery to consider and attempt such an arrangement. One may not be able to achieve this type of relationship with an ex-lover because it is too painful, or may not have the necessary temperament, et cetera. Whatever it may be, the truth is that if you want your ex back, fulfilling that positive role in her life – for which there is no better term than “friend” – is your best option towards reuniting as lovers.

Be honest with your ex. Let them know how you truly feel. I’m not saying to lay it on thick. Just make him or her aware. No one likes to be blindsided or caught by surprise. However, you have to respect their feelings and wishes too, and vice versa, if there is no reciprocation. You also have to respect yourself and your dignity. Don’t grovel. Don’t act on impulse. Don’t be immature. Don’t be petty. Be better. Be your best self. Be a good friend. Be fun. Be entertaining. Be trustworthy. Be dependable. And be an even better and brighter possibility for him or her.

There’s a reason why all  the best romantic relationships started off as friends. Keep that in mind.

Your Coach


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Getting back with your ex

My Ex Blocked Me on Facebook!

ex blocked me

When you’re in a breakup, there’s a lot on your plate. All of a sudden, there are a lot of things to resolve, which range from dividing possessions, moving into a new place, or figuring out how you’ll get to work. For many people, being blocked on Facebook is a fear to consider. As a relationship coach, more and more of my clients face the dreaded Block on Facebook, and immediately become determined to get unblocked and back in the lives of their exes.

In this article, I’ll discuss why your ex blocked you on Facebook, and what you can do to be unblocked on Facebook. Remember, when it comes to how to get unblocked, its all about the approach and it’s also a lot about timing. Don’t rush this process if you want it to work. Remember, this is the rest of your life! If you rush the process, you put rekindling the relationship in jeopardy.

If you’re trying to get unblocked on Facebook, you’ve come to the right page. This article is one of hundreds that we have available for you to dive into. I invite you to spend time after reading this browsing on our other posts, as they can help with any discomfort you may be feeling in your breakup. It’s nice to know that we aren’t alone in our feelings and that believe it or not, we can control them and position ourselves to get back with our exes!

Why my ex blocked me on facebook

When being blocked on facebook by your ex, the first thing to consider is what brought you here. How did you and your ex enter this toxic state in your relationship? Did it happen quickly? Slowly? Are you blocking and unblocking your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend often? Is this the first time? Or the 30th time?

It’s those who spend the time really identifying what brought them to this point who are most successful in turning it around.

In the majority of cases, your ex boyfriend or your ex girlfriend blocked you because they felt disrespected to some degree. Maybe you didn’t respect their wishes to give them the space they asked for? Maybe you were too demanding of their time and knowing what they’re up to online? Was trust in question here? Usually, it is.

I want to mention in this section that trust is really hard to get back – but it’s not impossible. You can recover from a broken sense of trust, but only if both people are willing to do so.

If trust is a key problem in your relationship, I invite you to look up active solutions toward getting it back. There are a variety of articles on this site geared toward how to rekindle the element of trust with an ex.

If you have having challenges in locating trust related articles or want to know if trust is the problem in your relationship, I invite you to leave a comment below because blocking an ex on facebook has always a meaning.

Ex blocked me on facebook : You can still get him or her back !

“Just because my ex blocked me on FaceBook, doesn’t mean that I can’t turn my situation around”

The above sentence is what I want you to be telling yourself as you focus on rekindling with your ex after being blocked. Why? Because confidence is critical and frankly, it’s the number one way to begin to turn your situation around.

Thousands of couples every day overcome social media related issues, and you can also be one of those people and those couples. The first step, though, is going to be to take a step back and forgive yourself and the relationship for all that’s happened to bring you and your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend up to this point.

I feel the majority of couples who salvage their relationship and unblock their partners have chosen to forgive their partners. For many, this can take time, and so I emphasize the importance of patience and self-love. This is how you’ll generally make someone unblock you.

In the next section, I’ll outline a few ways to get unblocked. The following tips have been determined after thousands of hours of coaching sessions with clients around the world.

My ex blocked my number and my Facebook : 3 steps to overcome that

If you’ve been blocked from Facebook, there are ways to get unblocked. As previously mentioned in this article, if you’re blocked on social media, that it’s likely because you overdid it. You disrespected your partner in a way that they are having difficulty forgiving, and that is why they proceeded with discontinuing your visibility into their lives.

In this section, I’m going to outline 3 tips to overcome being blocked on Facebook and other Social Media.

1. The first step to getting unblocked on Facebook and social media by your ex is to take a step away from the relationship. I know that this sounds counterintuitive, but your ex is angry and they need to take a breather. Needless to say, you could use some rest and a clear head. Right now, if you try to press your case to your ex, you’ll only frustrate them and prove to them that they should distance themselves further.

2. Step two in getting unblocked on Facebook and social media by your ex is to wait until you feel better before reaching out again. Remember, we need to keep our cool too, and be the role models for the tone of the conversation. If you approach them when you’re still in a state of desperation, you’re going to make the outreach turn into an episode. We don’t want this, on the contrary, we want to approach them when we are relaxed and level headed, which gives them the mental cue to respond calmly, too.

3. Step three in trying to get unblocked by your ex is to express a sense of empathy in regard to your behavior and how it made them feel. Your ex needs to know that you’re aware you crossed a line. If you can’t admit that, then the relationship is doomed to go through a similar situation again in the future. By understanding why they’re angry, you’ll be able to know where and how to modify your behavior next time. It’s important to remember that it’s not just about getting our exes back – it’s about keeping them.

I know that the above steps sound easier than they really are, but it’s for the betterment of your relationship. You want to give your partner and yourself the opportunity to have a loving and respectful relationship, which means that we need to approach the situation in a respectful and loving way.

If you have any questions about how the above information or the three steps to getting your ex to unblock you are relevant to your unique relationship, leave a comment! Let us know what you think. The goal of this content is to be conversational, and so I invite you to create a platform where you can engage with me and with one another. Happiness in love is all about encouragement, and we’re all here to support one another!

Wishing you the very best in all things pertaining to your relationship,

Coach Alex & Nath

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Finding the one

The confidence to seduce!

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When it comes to dating and cultivating intimate relationships, there’s nothing quite as important as the Art of Seduction. Seduction, in short, is one’s ability to become desirable to another person of their choice, with the goal of using that desirability to generate an intimate experience. Confidence is a key factor in the equation of seducing a man or seducing a woman, and so this article will delve into why this is important, how to improve your overall sense of confidence, and also how to target the type of confidence you want to exert and how that selection may influence the response you receive from a man or from a woman.

This article, like all the ones we write, is meant to be conversational, and so I invite everyone to comment beneath it, and express how the art of seduction and their self-confidence has positively or negatively influenced their relationship with a certain individual (or maybe multiple!).

Remember, all of these articles are for you, and so please let us know if you’re enjoying them, and what else you’d like for us to write content about. We hope you enjoy and Thank You for giving us purpose!

How to Get the Confidence to Seduce

When it comes to making seduction work effectively, theres really only one thing you need to have : Confidence. Confidence is an expression of self-assertiveness, and most people all over the world are tremendously drawn to this quality in a person. If you are reading this article and feel like you don’t carry much confidence, not to worry! Confidence in the art of seduction is something you can learn! The first step the becoming a new and improved person full of self-confidence is by trying. If you’re reading this article, you’re already doing just that and so, you’re on the right track.

Remember : if self-confidence is in the root of seduction, then your first goal in achieving it will be to acquire a stable state of self confidence and THEN trying to work on the seduction portion. Don’t rush this process if you want it to be authentic.

In the following section of this article, you’ll find five steps to gain confidence. These steps have been gathered after reviewing several years’ worth of data regarding the art of seduction.

Is Confidence different between a man and a woman?

A lot of clients ask us to explain the differences between how to express confidence with women and how to express confidence with men.

Believe it or not, there are usually a few differences between expressing confidence with women and expressing confidence with men. These differences, however, pertain more so to different or opposing value systems. Women and men with more traditional perspectives of relationships and societal responsibilities are more attracted to reflections of those values. For instance, for women who believe men are the heads of their household, they’ll be seduced more quickly when presenting empathy or interest in that situation or lifestyle.

Conversely, for many women, sharing the responsibilities with men and ensuring that both partners are in the work force, then values reflecting these interests of goals will be perceived as more attractive.

In short, it’s less about gender and more about values systems and common life goals when it comes to the confidence of and with women and the confidence of and with men.

I hope you found the steps listed in this article to be ones of value to you. Remember, the confidence of seduction isn’t a generic journey for everyone, it’s very personal and relative to your unique personality. Spend some time determining what will help boost your confidence in seduction and then work on it! Nothing great comes without effort, so don’t be afraid to give it your all.

Gaining Confidence to seduce in 5 steps

  1. Confidence can be achieved in a variety of ways, but it’s mostly generated when we finish something that we felt was challenging. In short, Confidence comes from accomplishment. When we are proud of ourselves, we have a feeling of ‘self-worth’, as we have just generated proof that we are capable of adding value to our lives and the lives of others. From running a 5K to excelling at a new hobby or in your career, the list of potential accomplishments are endless. This means that your chances to gain a sense of confidence are endless. Isn’t this excellent news?!

If you want to master the art of seduction, then start by taking advantage of the obstacles around you! Make a list of (5 – 10 things) of goals you want to hit. You should include a both short and long terms goals in this list, so you can start feeling great now, while building more things to feel great about for the future. Then, get crackin! Start ticking off what you listed, and watch how much better and excited you begin to feel.

The idea of hacking into your emotional database and triggering feelings of confidence is something our team refers to as “emotion hacking”. Hacking isn’t limited to confidence, as it can help you induce any feeling that you want. You know how sometimes, when you’re having a bad day, you turn everything around in your life to seem negative? This is the very same principle, but inverted!

  1. Once you’ve started to feel great and have a clear sense of self-confidence, it’s time to return to that element of seduction we had previously decided to store away. The introduction of seduction starts by speaking to the person who’s attention we seek, and showcasing our positivity and self-confidence. The person you are interested in will be attracted to your happy and assertive disposition, making it more likely for them to want to engage in more conversations with you!
  1. Make sure not to overdo your positivity. Remember, there is a difference between confidence and arrogance. The first is a virtue, and the other – a vice. You don’t want your love interest to feel you are so into yourself that you aren’t able to connect with others. Always make sure to ask them about their lives, too! This will keep the conversation fluid.

* If you feel like your conversation isn’t going too well, or like they aren’t responsive to your efforts, don’t worry. Retreat and retry at a later time.

  1. After the initial contact, try to engage in a conversation with this person a second time using this new and improved confidence based approach, whether it be in person or via text message. Toward the end of this conversation, try to confirm a face-to-face meeting where the two of you can chat alone! This doesn’t mean rushing to the backseat of your car, but rather going to grab coffee and take a walk, or a quick bite. This way, your partner or person of interest can feel you leading and taking control over the situation. This is the best way to showcase a confidence that attracts women and men alike.

* If you need help developing your plan for a first date, you’ve come to the right place. We help people all over the world with this exact challenge – the trick is to prevent your partner from feeling any sense of discomfort or boredom.We delve into this topic in a variety of articles, so please feel free to browse through our content after finishing this one!

  1. The final tip when it comes to how to seduce someone with confidence is expressing flirtation with them. This can be shown with positive and flirtatious body language and physical gestures such as touching them on the arm as they speak, or looking at them straight in the eye. Your partner will give you signs as to whether or not they’re enjoying this approach, so be mindful of these indicators. If you feel them step away or get defensive, discontinue the behavior temporarily and see if they warm back up again. This tip can be the tricky one, and so I invite you to consider seeking coaching from a professional if this is an area you want a specific game plan around. Certain tips will work best for YOU when it comes to how to boost your confidence with girls and boys. This will never be a one-size-fits all approach.

As previously mentioned in the introduction of this article, please feel free to include your thoughts on this article, and any others you may have come across of ours. We love the feedback and more importantly, we want to help. The more we know, the more we can guide and develop a tailored strategy around.


Thank you for reading!


Coach Nat



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How to text a man!

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Communication between a man and a woman has always been challenging. Whether it be over the phone, face to face, or in a handwritten letter, women have spent decades trying to understand the best ways to communicate and speak with their male counterparts. Now, we rely on text messaging with my male partners just as much (if not more) as any other communication platform. Are you someone who has considered the following questions to be OK? : ’Have something on your mind? Why not shoot your boyfriend a text?’ ‘Are you too mad to speak in person, then send a text!’ If so, beware! You may be setting yourself up for trouble. In short, knowing how to text a man is a really important tool to get a guy to kiss you. Don’t worry, though, you’re in the right place.

In this article, we’re going to tap into how to text with a man and elaborate on the “do’s and don’ts” of general communication with what men like. We’ll also go over what to text about with a guy, and even mention five mistakes to avoid when it comes to how to text a man you like. For those of you looking to just find tips on how to text a hot guy, we’ll have you covered there, too!

Before I dive in, I want to mention that this article is meant to be interactive, and so I truly invite you to leave a comment sharing your own texting experiences. Whether it be a story gone right or a story gone wrong.

How to text men : What you need to know

1/ The first thing to consider when learning how to text guys is what to text about with a guy. To start, guys are generally less emotional than girls, and so it’ll be important to avoid infusing too much emotion. For example, if you’re texting a guy about something, and you want to express an opinion, try mentioning what you think rather than what you feel. In short, use your head rather than your heart. Now, this isn’t the case for all guys nor is it the case once you enter a serious relationship. However, when we’re trying to kickstart a relationship and we’re just getting to know a guy, avoiding the emotional ‘mumbo jumbo’, as men like to think of it, will really help them be less afraid to engage with you. If they feel you’re coming on too strong emotionally off the bat, they may be a bit more reluctant to engage or continue the conversation.

2/ Next, it’s important to generally let the man lead the conversation. This isn’t to say that they’re meant to do or wanting to do all the work, but when it comes to how to text guys, they like to take the initiative more often than not. I understand that it’s 2017 and women are able to take as much as the reigns over the communication as they want, but I’m also a believer in a general sense of instinct and instinctively, men like to pursue something that they want. If you want to engage, go ahead, but if they aren’t providing the responses or attention you’re looking for, then retreat. Don’t worry, we aren’t hiding forever, but when it comes to things to text boys, it’s important not to overwhelm them or impede on their space.

3/ An additional tip that’s important to consider when it comes to how to text is a guy is not to be needy. I know, sometimes not being needy can be hard. Why? Well, because we’ve put ourselves out there and we want to be acknowledged! However, just because we want to get validation from our male counterparts, doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll be attracted to our emotional advances. On the contrary, they’ll likely be far from into your neediness.
– Ways to tell if you’re needy:
1. You send him messages even when he’s not responding
2. Insist on speaking when he’s mentioned he’s unavailable
3. Demanding of his time
4. Express anger or anxiety when it takes him a while to reply

4/ On the flip side of neediness, there’s neglect. This is another critical tip to consider when texting with a guy : how to not make him feel unwanted. Remember, there’s a fine line between making him engage and work for it, and making him feel dumb for continuing to reach out. So, when it comes to how to text a man you like, don’t leave him hanging! It’s important that he feels like you’re interested. So, if you’re busy and it’ll take you a really long time to reply, that’s fine – but reply! If you feel he’s the needy one, then ask yourself whether or not thing man is the guy you want to be texting with.

5/ The final tip to take into consideration when learning how to tech a man you like is knowing what guys like to hear. It’s something I am asked all the time in one on one coaching sessions with clients : “What do guys like to hear when texting?”. The answer it simple, compliments. Men love to feel empowered, so throwing out a few compliments here and there can really be helpful when texting a man you like. If he picks a restaurant you’ve been to before that you really like, you can acknowledge his choice or taste. The same rule applies with a genre of film or general insight on a topic. If you like what he’s saying or where he’s going with an idea, don’t forget to tell him!

Remember, the situation you are in may be very unique, and so it’s important to note that the above tips may not be directly relative to you. Love is not a one-size-fits-all approach, and it should never be treated like one. Many of my clients believe that the rules in this are universally applicable, but in reality, there are so many things we need to consider when it comes to situations like texting a guy you like. If you are unsure about what to do or how texting a guy you’re interested in will affect you and your love life, then I encourage you to seek some relationship coaching. It comes in handy to get that third party opinion and needless to say, venting can sometimes be the best therapy out there. Do not ignore your chance of successfully launching or maintaining your relationship while also feeling peace of mind. It can really make all the difference.

What to text about with a guy

When it comes to what to text about with a guy, it’s important to reflect on why you’re texting in the first place. Do you want this relationship to be the one you spend your life focusing on? Is this someone you envision yourself with long time? Are you just trying to text a hot guy and not expecting much? When you’re able to really identify what your motives are, you’ll be able to navigate through the waters of texting that much easier and more clearly.

If you’re trying to learn how to text a hot guy, I’m going to say that confidence is most important. Chances are, if you’re trying to text a hot guy, he knows he’s hot, and may likely have other women trying to get his attention. Therefore, confidence is going to be critical. It’s one of the sexiest characteristics out there. Even if you’re second guessing yourself on the inside, make sure not to communicate that in the text messages. This point relates to the above tip about implementing emotions into the dialogue. Just don’t do it!

I can’t mention texting a hot guy without taking a moment to emphasize that looks really (and I mean really!) don’t mean anything when it comes to developing a long term relationship. Sure, being physically attracted to someone is really important, but it will only matter if there’s more to it. If you aren’t fundamentally compatible and you’re wanting to know how to text a hot guy because it’s an ego-driven conquest, then make sure you’re walking into the situation without too high of expectations. I do not say this because you’re likely to put yourself in a position to get rejected, but more so because beneath that pretty or hot face is more important, and you may find yourself disappointed in the end if you only chased that face and not what’s behind it.

I hope that, overall, this article prepared you with necessary tools to consider when it comes to texting a guy you like or how to text and man you’re wanting to get to know or maintain a relationship with. Please know that no matter the situation, you can handle it well when you’re prepared. Reading this article puts you ahead of the curve, and so I commend you.

If you have any questions at all about the above content or to seduce a man, please feel free to leave a comment below. Or, if you have a text story or question you’d like to share or discuss, I also invite you to leave a comment below. This information is for you and I want to make sure it’s worth your while.
Wishing you the best always,

Coach Natalie

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7 Signs your ex still loves you!

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When you’re in a breakup, you can’t help but wonder if there are any signs to know whether or not your ex still loves you. This curiosity is natural, so please don’t second guess your strength just because you’re wondering what your ex is feeling or if there are signs to let you know whether or not they still care.

If you are searching for how to know your ex still loves you, then you’ve come to the right place, because we can help.

I invite you to read this article and include your feedback. I want to connect with you – I want to guide you and I want you to feel very sure about the signs to know if your ex still loves you. This is my gift to you so that you are, consequently, able to gift yourself the joys of love – whether it be with an ex you’ve previously dated or even with someone brand new.

The advice in this article comes from thousands of one-on-one coaching sessions we’ve had with clients worldwide. Therefore, these tips and tools are proven and have helped clients and people just like you yield the results they’ve wanted in love.

I hope you enjoy what you read and find it useful.

How to tell if your ex still loves you : the mistakes you shouldn’t make

There are countless ways to tell if your ex still loves you. I will introduce and discuss 5 of these ways in this article. Please be mindful of the fact that each and every relationship is relative and that rekindling is not a “one size fits all” approach. Make sure to take a moment to determine how applicable each or every one of these signs is to your unique relationship and all its intricacies.

1.Social Media – As a relationship coach, I can’t stress the powers of social media (if you are already an active user) enough. My clients often ask me to help them decipher what it means when their ex’s still check their SnapChat stories, or like their Instagram pictures. And, my response is one you’ll like to hear, because it definitely means that your ex still loves you. Why? Well, your ex is still curious about what you’re up to and how you’re spending your time. This is a great sign, because it shows that they still find a lot of value in your time and in your decisions. If your ex goes as far as liking one of your pictures, then it also may show that they want you to know how they feel about you and that you’re still on their mind and on their newsfeed. This is very significant, and really puts the ball in your court. Spend time reflecting on whether you’d like to engage, because you’ve just been given the green light!

2. Contact – If you’re ex has reached out to your since the breakup, then its safe to think that they still love you. In a breakup, when we are truly trying to move on, we will avoid speaking to our ex’s at all costs. Therefore, if your ex has tried to speak with you, or has contacted you since the breakup (for just about any reason!) then you’re in luck. Trust me! However, be mindful of how you go about replying, or if you should reply at all. Do not give them the opportunity to dictate when you can speak and what you cannot. However, this is a topic for another article!

3. Mutual Friends – If your ex is speaking to mutual friends about you or trying to discover your whereabouts, it can really mean that your ex still loves you. Similar to what is listed in the contact section : when our ex’s are trying to learn about what we’re doing, it’s because they still care and it’s because you’re still on their mind. In short, this is a really good way to know if your ex still loves you. This is really important for you to know, as it can give you the confidence that you need to reach out (in the right way!) if you want to get back together. Also, be mindful when it comes your what you share to mutual friends. It’s likely to assume that it will get back to your ex, so make sure that you’re sending the right message.

4. Completely Disappearing – Believe it or not, when a partner immediately flatlines from planet earth, it can really serve as a sign that your ex still loves you. This is because they’ve retreated into isolation and aren’t out trying to get over you. When we see our ex’s posting incessantly on social media, or hear about them out with friends, it can mean that they’re trying to really distract themselves from the breakup and move on. If they’ve disappeared, you may have affected them more than you think!

5. Radical Lifestyle Changes – If you are able (or have been sneakily snooping) to peer into your ex’s life, which realistically isn’t recommended for many of you in no contact (I will explain no contact in another article) or radio silence, you may see that they’ve radically changed their daily routine or general lifestyle. When we see our ex’s engage in such changes, it’s a surefire way to know how to see if your ex still loves you.

Your ex isn’t coping well with the breakup, and has sought out very unusual activities to fill the void of the separation. While this, on the one hand, can imply that your ex is trying to distract themselves and potentially move forward, it also means that they’re hung up on the breakup and that you are still on their minds. For obvious reasons, this is an excellent sign to show that your ex still loves you. With this sign, specifically, be mindful how to approach your ex, as their changes can likely impact who they are and how they treat other people.

why is this important to know the signs your ex still loves you ? 

When it comes to rekindling an old flame, nothing is more helpful than knowing the signs your ex still loves you. Why is this so important? Well, if you know your ex still loves you, you’ll be able to boost your confidence about reaching out, and being confident is so critical! When we question whether or not our ex’s like us, then our outreach may accidentally come off as needy or just generally very insecure. Our ex’s will not be attracted to this. On the contrary, this may push our partners further away, and if our ex did secretly have lingering love or feelings for us, we may be putting them in jeopardy.

When it comes to dealing with an ex and how to tell if your ex still likes you, you’ll be able to better position yourself and handle any encounter with them if you have received any of the signs listed above. It’s a way of guarantees that you aren’t going into the trenches blindly and without direction. I think anyone reading this article can agree that if you know your ex still loves you, any encounter with them will give you more confidence and self-assurance and will thereby go more smoothly.

However, if you aren’t sure how to tell if your ex still loves you or if you don’t feel the signs your ex still loves you are clear, that isn’t to imply you aren’t meant to reach out. Rather, you can reach out, but you’ll have to do so more delicately. We will be posting articles on this particular portion of rekindling in the future, so I invite you to tune into this website on a regular basis.

How to know if your ex still loves you 

Knowing the signs your ex still loves you really come in handy, and so I invite you to copy/paste the five bullet points we listed above to self as a self-coaching tool. Perhaps in the future you may be wondering, “what are the signs that your ex still loves you?” and then you’ll be able to refer to the listed information quickly. If not, feel free to save this link.

The reason it can be a good idea to have a key of signs to know if your ex still loves you is because it can self as a referencing tool. For many of you in a breakup, you haven’t seen any of the signs just yet, but by keeping this nearby, you’ll know how to identify them when you do. Then, when you see them, you will not do anything silly or embarrassing, and you’ll be able to coast through the waters of love with ease. By keeping these tools and our advice handy, you’re making love an open book test – which means you are VERY capable in succeeding in your goal of getting back with your ex.

I hope that these tips were very helpful to you and that it’s broadened your perspective on the ways in which you can identify if your ex still loves you. Remember in your relationship is very unique and it should be treated with care. Spend time reflecting on whether or not these signs are present in your relationship and if they are, spend an equal (or more) amount of time deciding what you’re going to do about it. Learning the signs is just the beginning of the journey and not the end in itself.

If you feel you are wanting to speak with someone to help identify if your ex still loves you, I encourage you to sign up for one-on-one coaching. It’s an excellent opportunity to generate a tailored game plan that is built around you and your partner.

Wishing you the very best today and always,

Coach Natalie


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Break Up Songs : 20 of the absolute best tracks to listen to in a break up

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When we’re in a break up, it’s really natural, and maybe even fundamental for many people out there, to binge on break up love songs. After all, they feel our pain and share our fears, right? Sometimes, an artist or songwriter can find the words that we can’t find ourselves, and therefore, music can actually serve as catharsis – or a mode of releasing the tensions we build during a breakup. However, it’s also important to acknowledge that with anything good, comes a little bad. So, it’s worth mentioning that even though breakup songs can really help, they can also keep us stuck in them. But, many of us want to stay stuck. We want to hang on, right?

In this article, I’ll discuss why we listen to breakup songs, whether or not they’re actually helpful, and of course, I’ll list a couple of the best break up love songs out there. This article is also supposed to be fun, and so, if you’ve found a particular breakup love song that I haven’t listed that’s really helped you during this difficult period, I invite you to leave a comment. Let me know what you’re listening to and how it’s affected you and helped you cope. I’d love to continue expanding my list of excellent break up love songs.

Why listening to break up song chan be helpful ? 

So, here we go – let’s discuss why we listen to songs on and about breakups. Firstly, it’s important to know we aren’t alone. In a breakup, we have a person, or group of people, speaking a couple of languages we can really understand – the languages of love and loss and pain and downright confusion. When we listen to these songs, we’re able to communicate subconsciously with these people, and able to channel our emotional intent into them and them into us. We connect with them deeply for the song’s duration. This is a great way of us to avoid feeling alone, and like we have the support of a team or at least are able to find comfort in the fact that we aren’t the only people in the world who have gone through this before. Knowing that this is a situation, or at least a set of feelings, that so many have felt and survived can give us hope. It can give it a sense of “tomorrow”.

Secondly, we have the opportunity to get the emotions out of us! What a relief! Phew! By listening to breakup music, we get to turn up the volume in our bedrooms, in our cars, on planes, trains and at work if we can, and scream out all the words we haven’t been able to say. Maybe, we’re screaming words we’re afraid to say. Or, maybe we didn’t even know we wanted to say them? Regardless of the reason, we finally get them out of our chest!.By doing that, even if it’s just for an instant or a handful of minutes, we’re able to get rid of the weight of those emotions and how they impact us. For a moment, a SECOND – we’re free. For a short period of time, we can truly displace our pain and feel the relief we’ve been looking for. What a luxury, right?

Lastly, we listen to break up love songs because we don’t want to let go of the relationship. We want to hang onto it and keep it alive. By listening the breakup songs, we get to continue focussing on the relationship – we relive the good, we relive the bad. We keep ourselves stuck in it.

Now, we need to ask ourselves, are break up love songs actually helpful? Do they really heal us? Or is being hooked on breakup love songs only further preventing us from moving on or healing? I’m sure the answer the these questions are relative to the person in the moment. However, I did want to take into this from a professional perspective.

In my opinion, breakup love songs are critical in the healing process. Rather than keep you stuck, they actually can indirectly force you to grieve and reflect on the love lost. This actually means you’re healing and growing and understanding what went wrong. If your goal is to get your ex back, understanding why the breakup happened is the number one most important thing you’ll need to identify and correct. This being said, breakup love songs may be a real handy tool. However, like I previously mentioned, with every good there is bad. It’s important to limit how many love songs your binging on. Maybe give yourself an hour a day to wallow in the pains associated with the breakup with your favorite breakup love songs or just the most recently or popular break up love songs. When that hour is up, though, it’s going to be really important for you to turn off the radio or music application and get back to your life. Do not let it consume you completely. I cannot stress this enough. If you spend the entire day binging, the positives that come with listening to breakup love songs become negative and therefore lose their power to help heal you.

To spin off of whether or not they are helpful, I want to take this topic one step further – I encourage you to start writing down your own words and feelings. Start playing a few instruments of your own. Make the music yourself. This is another excellent healing mechanism. For many of you reading this, you think that suggestion is a little ridiculous. However, think about it this way – if you haven’t tried it and you’re still feeling lousy and you’re reading this article to cure the feelings of lousiness, then what you’ve done so far hasn’t done the trick. Therefore, what do you have to lose? What’s the harm in trying? Sit in a quiet and private place and give it a go. If you aren’t able to work with instruments of if they aren’t readily available to you, download an App for your phone or computer! There are so many virtualized instruments these days, so that’s no excuse to use!

Try making music for one full week, allocating about 45 minutes a day if you’re able. By the end of that week, let’s see how you feel. Have you reflected on the events that led to the breakup? Do you feel more in tune with what happened? Have you considered ways to correct it? Let the music express all of this! I promise, if you do, you’ll truly being the healing process. Hey, maybe you can end up writing an incredible album and turn into the next Adelle! What do you really have to lose? When it comes to music and catharsis and healing from a breakup, you only have lots to gain.

The best list of the best breakup songs is here ! 

Now for what may be my favorite part of this article. The list of love songs. As a major music person, this exercise quickly became a really tedious process. I called my parents, to tap into their generation, and called my friends. It was important for me to develop a well rounded list for everyone, but the task became (and still is!) tremendously difficult.

Initially, I was going to limit this list to Top 5 Best Break Up Songs, but narrowing the list was far too difficult, because there are just so many able to affect us and how we feel during a breakup. So, I’ve created a compilation of my top 20 Breakup Love Songs. As I mentioned in the introduction of this article, I invite you to leave a comment with your favorite Breakup Love Song and how it’s impacted you during this really challenging chapter in your life. If you do not live in the United States, thats OK! Please list any breakup love song from your local region, regardless of language and song release date. In time, I’d like to make collections of songs for different areas around the world so that everyone can feel included in this process and so that everyone has access to great love songs regardless of their location! Love can really unite us, and so, I really encourage you to get involved in this article.

The list below is a blend of 2 types of breakup love songs: ones to make you cry and ones to make you empowered to regain confidence. The reason for this is because I feel like there are so many levels of a breakup, and after a while, even though we’re still emotionally destroyed, we get tired of hurting and want to find some music to lift us back up.

One more note on the point of lifting back up (I know you just want the list, already!) during a breakup. Well, if you want your ex back, you’ll need confidence in order to achieve that desired outcome. Your ex doesn’t want to see you in collapse mode. Why? Well, guilt isn’t a long term solution. They may feel terrible for a few moments, as they don’t want to be the ones responsible for infecting so much pain.

However, after a while, their dissatisfaction with the relationship will resurface and you’ll be right back where you are right now. Therefore, the real way to get them back is to become organically re-attracted to you. That’s where the confidence comes in! We are attracted to people who are confident and aware of all they have to offer. We are inspired by people like this, and naturally, want to be with people we find to be inspiring. So, the fastest way to get your ex back, consequently, will be to become as confident and self-aware and as inspiring as possible. In music terms, this will mean turning off the Toni Braxton (who, in my opinion, deserves a crowned location on this list) and turn up the TLC!

  1. Toni Braxton – Unbreak My Heart
  2. Adele – Send my Love to your New Lover
  3. Adele – When We Were Young
  4. Beyonce – Irreplaceable
  5. Justin Timerlake – Cry Me A River
  6. Passenger – Let Her Go
  7. Gavin Degraw – Not Over You
  8. One Republic – Apologize
  9. Chris Brown / Drake – Deuces Remix
  10. TLC – No Scrubs
  11. Celine Dion – My Heart Will Go On
  12. Usher – You Got it Bad
  13. Johnny Cash – Hurt
  14. A Great Big World – Say Something
  15. NSync – Bye Bye Bye
  16. Rihanna – Stay
  17. Shania Twain – That Don’t Impress Me Much
  18. Alanis Morissette – You Oughta Know
  19. Justin Bieber – Love Yourself
  20. Rihanna – Needed Me

I hope you liked my scattered Breakup Love Songs list of 20 top Breakup Love Songs and more importantly, gained insight on why binging on love songs may be an excellent and effective way to mourn a break up, relive a breakup, and ultimately, begin to heal from the breakup. You deserve to feel all the feels, let them be good or bad – and there are so many artists around the world channeling everything inside of your chest. Do not rob yourself of the opportunity to feel these things and those struggles with them. Music is truly such a uniting tool and with the internet and endless amount of music access so many of us around the world have, we really have the luxury of exploring these songs on command.

Wishing you the best today and always, and of course, wishing you a great Break Up Love Song Sound Track,


Coach Natalie

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How to write the perfect letter to my ex?

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If you’re reading this letter, you may be looking for ways to reach out or touch base with an ex after your recent (or sometimes not so recent) breakup. If so, we’re glad you’re here. You’ve come to the right place

I’m Coach Natalie, and together with my partners, Coach Adrian and Coach Alex, we’ve curated this website and blog to offer a variety of materials geared toward rebuilding the bond you have with your ex.

While you may not have too much hope in this moment, please note that these resources have proven success rates, and that is why we offer them. If there’s something you don’t find you’re getting from the letter, or if you want to mention your story to see if a letter will work in your situation, I invite you to leave a comment below. I’m excited to learn about what you’re going through and how to help.

The perfect Letter to my ex !

This article in particular is around the timeless “letter to my ex” that a lot of us run to when we’re in a breakup. We tell ourselves that if we can just romantically communicate all the love we have for them and that we’ll do anything to make it work, then everything will find resolve and we’ll get back together. Sadly though, based on our professional experience, that traditional romantic route we see in films doesn’t usually have the ending we’re looking for. Actually, it can make the potential of getting back together a lot lower. In this article, I’ll be writing about why that love letter-type approach to reaching out to an ex isn’t the best idea, but WHY a different kind of letter IS! The letter you’ll really want to tap into is the “accountability letter”. I’ll discuss what this means and how to pull it off below (this is why you’re in the right place!)

Why Write A Lette

Writing a letter is a great way to reconnect with your ex because it isn’t invasive. It’s a way for you to communicate what it is you want to say, without the yelling or the crying. It’s more subtle and respectful than bombarding them in public or knocking on their door in the middle of the night. Those episodes rarely go well, as many of you hear know first hand.

A letter is simple. A letter to your ex can be written over the course of a few hours or even weeks, and so your delivery can be clear and not influenced by some spur of the moment impulse (which usually makes us say things we regret).

Lastly, a letter to your ex, when handwritten, the way we encourage our clients to do, is a tender gesture that people often forget about in this high-tech world we live in.

The Point of the Letter

The letter that I’m talking about in this article, contrary to what other sites or coaches suggest, is not a love letter to your ex. I cannot stress this enough, so I will repeat it: This letter is NOT a love letter to your ex. This letter, instead, is an opportunity for you to take accountability for the ways in which you contributed to the dismantling of your relationship. This letter is your chance to step up and say “hey, I’m not perfect, but I’ve learned a lot”.

Why We Avoid The Love Letter

The reason this letter is not going to be a love letter is because love letters are dramatic. They are so fueled by emotion and desperation that it can easily overwhelm your ex. They can feel you’re still too emotional to deal with and like you’re only goal for reaching out is to get back together, which makes all the changes you promise in the letter lack authenticity. This is a really hard point to come back from, because it will cause your ex to be annoyed of you. No one wants to commit to something that’s annoying to them, right?

(Also : Remember, they were in the breakup too, and it’s hard for them to hear from you – even if they’re the ones who pulled the plug.)

It’s time for your ex to stop viewing you as a source of drama and to remember that despite all the issues the two of you had, that you’re friends and get along great! Therefore, if you strip off the emotion from the letter, and speak more calmly and confidently about yourself and don’t ask to get back together, you’ll have a much higher chance that they’ll respond and even WANT to see you.

There are three main why your ex will reply to an accountability letter:

  1. The first reason your ex is likely to reply to an accountability letter over a love letter is because automatically, the pressure it off. If you don’t hound for them back, they’ll get the impression that they’re able to speak with you without being pushed into a corner of decisions or ultimatums. This, in turn, makes your ex feel that speaking with you can be a casual and easy-going experience. It’s in this ease that the spark between you two can happen organically, which will generate the highest chance of success for you and your ex to get back together.
  2. The second reason why an accountability letter to your ex boyfriend or an accountability letter to your ex girlfriend will be well received is because it’s unexpected. When your ex receives the letter, they’ll automatically assume its purpose (we can thank movies for that!) is to reel them back into your life. When you DON’T do this, however, your ex will be caught off guard and downright curious to see how you’re doing.
  3. The third reason why a letter of accountability will work in your favor is because your ex can put their guard down. Once your ex notices that you aren’t reaching out to argue, debate or get back together, they can relax and put their guard down. The beauty of this is, if their guard is up, they won’t even be able to see all the wonderful ways you’ve changed since the breakup. They’ll be too distracted to reject you to even notice that you may be a great partner to them for the long run. If their guard is down, they’ll be able to be more receptive, rather than defensive, to your outreach and can peer into this new and evolved person that you’ve become since you’ve spoken last.

When to send the letter to your ex boyfriend or girlfriend

Like with most things, timing really is everything, and when to send the letter to your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is no different. By waiting a while after your last contact with your ex, your letter will carry more weight and have a bigger impact. In order for me to explain this, I’m going to use a heavy cigarette smoker.

If we have a smoker who is used to smoking 20 cigarettes a day, and all of a sudden, all 20 are taken away with no opportunity to replenish, the cigarette smoker is almost foaming at the mouth for a cigarette. They’re desperate for one. Then, when you give him or her one, they’re in total bliss.

Now, what if we take that same cigarette smoker, but this time, give him the opportunity to wean off the cigarettes, from 20 to 15, from 15 to 10, from 10 to 5 and then to 0. Will this smoker feel the withdrawals as badly as the first example? Of course not! It becomes ten times easier.

If we apply this principle to sending the letter, we can see that if we all of a sudden stop communicating and fall off their radar, and then make a nice entrance via letter showcasing all the great things we’ve been up to – we’ve got a person foaming at the mouth ready to read every word on every line and in between. However, if we’ve been in regular contact with this person, then the letter is likely not going to give the recipient the “punch” that we want. Make sense?

I encourage you to wait at least a few weeks with little to no contact with an ex before sending this letter if you’d like to yield the result you’re after. I know that waiting to reach out can be really hard, but make sure to reason with yourself. What’s a few weeks relative to a lifetime with this person? Not too much, right? You can do this. We believe in you. If you need one-on-one support, please feel free to comment under this article and we’ll coordinate a time to speak and work with you.

How long should the letter to my ex be?

This is a question I get very often, and so I wanted to spend some time elaborating on why the length of your accountability letter is so important.

It’s important not to have a letter too long in length, as it shows that you’ve spent copious hours writing it, which can make your ex feel as though they objective is to rekindle. I feel a letter should never exceed two pages, and feel one and a half pages to be the best length.

Contact Us to write the perfect letter to your ex!

For many clients, the letter is one of the hardest parts to get through. Maybe doubt their writing skills or doubt if they’re saying the right things the right way. This is where Coach Adrian, Alex and I come in. We have a bunch of tools tailored to writing the perfect letter, including this audio seminar to write the perfect letter to your ex.

Additionally, we offer one-on-one coaching sessions, where we can review and edit your letter together. This personalized method, undoubtedly, yields the highest results because we get to really delve into your letter to your ex boyfriend or letter to your ex girlfriend and can help a lot.

If you feel as though your questions weren’t answered or if you’re looking for additional information, I invite you to leave a comment below and I will reply soon. I invite you to browse through our blog, as other topics we discuss may be helpful to you on your journey to get back with your ex.

As always, it’s so wonderful to connect with you all, and I look forward to receiving comments and engaging with you.


Wishing you the very best today and always,

Coach Natalie

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I miss my ex and I want to know what to do!

miss my ex

Hello! I’m Coach Natalie and I’m a Life Coach who focusses on and has dedicated their life to rebuilding intimate relationships. Every week, I (or one of my business partners) creates an article geared toward common questions or situations that we observe in our one-on-one coaching sessions. These articles serve as a self-coaching guide for you all at home. If you’re new to this website, I invite you to look around to make sure you have all the resources you need to get through this challenging period. We understand that your situation can be incredibly painful. We’re here to support you.

This article particularly surrounds one of the most frequent-seen and felt obstacles I help my clients deal with during their breakups and during the process of rekindling with an ex. This article is about the ins and outs of missing your ex.

In a breakup, it’s the most natural thing for us to miss having our exes in our lives. After all, we’ve invested so much of ourselves and of our time into them and our relationship, right? Why wouldn’t we miss the hell out of them? Don’t worry. We get it!

I wanted to write this article because, while missing your ex is normal, it’s incredibly crippling, and can prevent you from finding the peace of mind and inner confidence you need to both heal and get your ex back (if that is your end goal). Out of all issues my clients face that cause them to break and reach out to their exes – missing them is by far the most dangerous, as it can stunt a clients’ personal development and send them down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and fear.

In this post, I will discuss why we miss our exes, how to feel better about missing our exes (even how to miss them less!) and common mistakes to avoid.

Before I dive in, I want to mention that this article, like the others featured on this site, are generalized topics, but should not be regarding as tailored to your unique situation. If you feel as though the materials you’re reading don’t relate to your story entirely, I encourage you to either visit our YouTube channel LoveAdviceTV, for more content, or to book a session with me or Coach Adrian. In my experience, one-on-one coaching sessions tend to yield the highest results, because the game plans are made specifically to you and whatever it is you’re going through.

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1/ Why do i miss my ex

If you’re asking yourself “why am I missing my ex” or “why do I miss my ex so much”, I want to start this section of the article by saying that missing your ex is completely normal. In fact, I would find it strange if you didn’t miss your ex. After al, you spent a bunch of time with them!

There are plenty of reasons why you may find yourself missing your ex, but this article will discuss the top 3 most common:

#1 Why You Miss Your Ex :

One reason you may find yourself missing your ex is because your ex is a habit of yours. You’re used to texting and calling them, as well as receiving texts and calls from them. You’re used to spending time with them and them wanting to spend time with you. Now that you’re seeing less of them, the habit you’ve formed is now being forced to change, and that can hurt! Compare it to someone with a fatty and unhealthy diet suddenly opening a fridge to grapes and quinoa. It just feels weird! However, like that person seeking healthier options, spending time away from your ex is actually a good thing. Remember, the breakup occurred for a reason and it’s important to recognize that space and time can really help the dust settle.

#2 Why You Miss Your Ex :

Another reason you may be missing your ex is because you’re not used to being alone. Some of us fear loneliness more than just about anything, and a fresh breakup can really heighten that fear. People in relationships, especially those of you who have been in long term relationships, aren’t accustomed to life as a single person and can internalize this change as though they’re lives are less interesting. While this can be very tricky, but it’s very curable! I’ll discuss how to cure this in the following section of this article.

#3 Why You Miss Your Ex :

A third, and maybe the most common reason, we may miss our ex is because we needed them to feel good about ourselves. Believe it or not, many of us use our ex’s as mirrors : they way they look at us is the way we look at ourselves. Now that they’re gone, we may be wondering how lovable we are and how memorable we are to them now. This reason is more often than not the most painful, and it’s the one that likely keeps us on the floor with a pint of ice cream and a Romantic Comedy marathon. If this is the one you identify most, there’s good news and bad news.

The good news is that how you perceive yourself is completely under your control. No one in the world has the power to make you love yourself more or less, nor are they responsible for showing us how lovable or unlovable we are. Therefore, if you’re willing to face yourself, and give yourself the love and respect you deserve, you’ll never need a man or woman to tell you how great you are ever again.

The bad news, unfortunately, is that this issue is very personal and shows that maybe having a partner right now isn’t the best idea. When I speak to a client undergoing stresses related to their self-esteem or their general relationship with themselves, I usually recommend that they pull themselves from the dating pool and focus on dating themselves first. We often look to our partners to prove to us how special we are, but in reality, that’s our job! We need to value ourselves, and we need to inspire ourselves. If you’re reading this section and feel like you identify with it, then it’s a good thing that you aren’t dating anyone. I feel like, if you’re able to focus on you, instead of on your ex, you’ll be able to rebuild that self-esteem and be able to rekindle with them later on down the line, when you’re in good standings with yourself. It will take work, but it’s the most gratifying journey when you begin to embrace it.

If you feel reason #3 is the one bothering you most, I again encourage you to book a session with Coach Adrian or myself. We have so many tools and tricks to help you rebuild your relationship with you, and believe it or not, that is Step 1 to getting your ex back. Way to kill two birds with one stone!

2/ How can I feel better when I miss my ex ?

When I really miss my ex, I ask myself when the pain will go away; I wonder how can I feel better when I miss my ex ?

Believe it or not, there are so many ways to feel better, even if you really miss your ex boyfriend or really miss your ex girlfriend. In this article, I will highlight three key ways to feel better when missing an ex.

#1 How To Miss My Ex Less :

The primary way to miss your ex less is to stay as busy as possible. Usually, in a breakup, we find ourselves unwilling to go outside, socialize, meet people, explore our surroundings. Instead, we prefer to sit on our couches or in our beds and drill ourselves on what we may have done wrong or what we could have done differently. Succumbing to this approach, though, is the slowest way to stop missing your ex – this I can assure you.

Instead, I invite you to fill your schedule with countless activities. This transitions into point number two.

#2 How To Miss My Ex Less :

An incredible way to miss your ex less is by trying a variety of new activities. Not only should you be really busy, but be really busy trying things you’ve never done before! With all this new time you have, learn about yourself! Go skydiving, get your scuba diving license, pick up a good book! Not only will doing things like this help you miss your ex less, it will also make you love yourself more and give your confidence levels a major boost! When your confidence is higher, it’ll be so much simpler to spend more time alone. Why? Because spending time with yourself means you’ll be doing exciting things! After a while, you may really start to look forward to this one-on-one time with yourself. Talk about a win, win situation.

3/ I miss my ex so much : How to avoid the mistakes

While reading this article, you may have asked yourself something along the lines of “What’s the big deal if I miss my ex? Who cares? I’m the only one affected!”

Well, you see, that’s not entirely true. When we find ourselves stuck missing an ex, we can end up making pretty bad decisions and yes, you guessed it, a lot of those decisions end in us reaching out to our exes in one (wrong) way or another. When we do this, we tend to make our situations worse. Why? Well, because when we are missing an ex and we end up reaching out to them, we can easily annoy or frustrate them, and can actually re-affirm why it was a good decision for them to leave us or for the relationship to end.

When we reach out to our exes in a state of desperation, like when we really miss them, we often make them feel like they’re better than us, and like we need them to be happy with ourselves or satisfied with our lives. This can be very unattractive and can consequently push your ex farther away from you.

If there’s one piece of advice to take from this article, it’s going to be to NOT reach out to your ex just because you miss them. For the high majority, it just makes things worse. Instead, wait until you’re in better standing with yourself and are more confident. Confidence is going to be what keeps you strong during the outreach process and it’ll help stop you from overthinking things (which can also put us in an awkward and thereby unsuccessful position).

When I ask a lot of my clients to do, if they’re unable to have the self control we’re fighting for, is to give their ex’s information to their best friends for safe keeping and then to delete that information from their phones. This can serve as a preventative measure. Another idea I tell clients is to write me instead (or your best friend, if you and I aren’t in coaching) ! This way, you can get the thoughts and feelings out of you, while not letting them to get your ex, either. This has proven to be very helpful for many people. Give it a try!

Summing it up – Why I miss My Ex

Ultimately, as discussed in this article, missing your ex is really normal. You’re used to them and you miss their company. However, missing an ex can impair our abilities to heal from the relationship and can also hinder our abilities to take care of ourselves and value ourselves.

Before reaching out to your ex, make sure to get the “missing them” element under control. Even if it takes months, then go for it! Wait it out! It’s better for you to wait, collect yourself, and ‘WOW!’ them with this new and improved and confident you, than it is to prove to them that you aren’t doing well in your life and that they’re the superior partner.

If you feel your situation is unique and like I haven’t targeted it here – please leave a comment in the section below. I’d love to hear about what you’re going through and I’d love to help. If you’re shy about posting information about yourself or afraid to share your story online, please feel free to reach us.

We check out Contact email daily and will reply to you the moment that we can. We know how painful missing an ex can be and sometimes it can be the only thing we think about. Believe it or not, we’ve been there! We can help!

Thank you for reading and for tune in to our blog, website, and YouTube Channel, LoveAdviceTV. I hope it helps give you some piece of mind, especially when peace feels so far away.

I look forward to connecting with you soon!


Coach Natalie

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Getting back with your ex

Will my ex forget about me if I use the no contact?

ex forget me

When we’re in the pit of a breakup, the last thing we want to hear is that we have to go into strict No Contact, or Radio Silence in order to get our ex back. We can’t help but feel like ignoring our ex is counterintuitive. After all, how are they going to see how capable we are of changing if we aren’t in touch with one another? Will my ex forget about me if I use the no contact?

Believe it or not, this is likely the most commonly asked question I’m asked during one-on-one sessions with my clients, and I completely understand why. No Contact can be absolutely heart scorning and petrifying. It’s natural to sit and question “how to stay in my exs thoughts?” or “will my ex forget me in no contact?” If you’re reading this article right now, asking yourself those or similar questions – don’t worry, you aren’t alone. Many of us sit and pine as to how No Contact really works and more specifically, how is will work for us.

In order to calm your nerves about the idea of speaking to your ex less (or realistically, not very much at all) while also preparing you to use it to your benefit and consequently get your ex back, we’ll have to spend some time breaking down what it No Contact is, how it works and why it’s actually beneficial.

In this article, I will focus on why the no contact is necessary after a break up. More specifically, I will also describe the 3 ways to avoid your ex forgetting about you during no contact, and how to talk to an ex again after the no contact. I hope that reading this compilation of relationship information will help give you the peace of mind you deserve and needless to say, the peace of mind you will undoubtedly need in order to implement and maintain No Contact correctly. By the end of this article, you’ll have answered those treacherous questions I listed above:

Will my ex forget about me if I use the no contact?

How to stay in my ex thoughts?

Ideally, you’ll also have answered several more! Please note, that if by the end of the article, your questions relating to No Contact and its benefits and implementation tactics have been left unanswered, please comment in the section outlined below. Or, feel free to email Coach Adrian and I directly at the following email. We’d love to create additional material geared toward helping you feel that peace of mind you’re after.

Why the no contact is necessary after a break up

While, in reality, the complete list of benefits No Contact can bring are truly an article of their own.. as there are dozens of reasons with the no contact is necessary after a breakup; I’m going to use this article to discuss the top and most potent benefits people often ask about and relate best to.

To start, it’s going to make your ex miss you. Having your ex miss you is fundamental in the process of getting them back. Why? Well, it allows for the dust to settle, and over time, it will actually help them begin to dismiss the negative thoughts they previously felt. Particularly, the ones that led to the dreaded breakup. Remember, the day they broke up with you is not the day they decided – rather, it’s just the day that they followed through with it. With No Contact, those remaining feelings that fueled their decision can begin to be forgotten or find resolve.

When we miss someone, we can’t help but focus on the good. After all, that’s why we miss things, right? Because of the good the brought to us and the value that was added to our lives! Immediately after a break up, it may be easy for your ex to stay away from you, because they haven’t yet transitioned into what life will really be without you. This haven’t missed you yet. This can start with basic things : maybe having a person to watch their favorite show with or a person they used to call when they were frustrated. All of those things generate a sense of longing for the person who is no longer there.

It’s for reasons and moments like the ones I’ve listed in the previous paragraph that the end goal of our ex missing us is the number one reason why the no contact rule after a break up works wonders. In addition to them missing us, they’ll also be forced to reflect on how much their lives have dramatically changed without us in it. It may not happen overnight, but it’ll certainly happen. After the thousands of people that we’ve all coached collectively, this has been something they’ve all mostly shared! It’ the perfect way to attract your ex.

A lot of you may be thinking, but what if they realize that their live is better now? While I understand this concern, please note that it’ll take way longer than 1 month or so of no contact (especially for longer term relationships or marriages) for them to make that realization if they are indeed able to make that realization. Remember, you’re a habit, and habits are hard to break! Most habits are pretty painful to let go of. The same way you feel as though you’re withdrawing from your ex, is the same way they feel as though they are withdrawing from you. They’re used to your scent, voice, shared plans and lifestyle choices and perspectives.

I understand that right now you may feel totally forgettable. You may be asking yourself, “will my ex really be missing my scent like Coach Natalie is saying?” However, I want you to take a minute to think about where this self doubt is coming from. Is it from your heart or is it from your ego?

Our egos can sometimes find pleasure in making us doubt ourselves. This may be the same little voice that says, “you can be skinnier, richer, more socially networked.” Be mindful of this voice, because it’s going to be important for you to silence it now. Do NOT let your ego get in the way of your progress. Your relationship with yourself must be at an all time high in order for you to be able to get your ex back. Imagine this: if you are a clock, your ego is that lose pesky little screw that can jam all the gears. If you give that screw enough time to rust, it’ll be ten times harder to extract it and get those gears going again! Make sure to keep that screw from getting stuck in your gears of progress and personal development!

A third reason why the no contact rule after a breakup is amazing is because, while your ex is home pondering about you and how different their life is, you’re finding ways to learn how to get over a break up. This reason is critical for you right now, as this period will allow for you to regain a sense of self. It’s very normal to feel very out of your skin during a breakup. You may not recognize yourself or what your self interests even are anymore.

Here’s why:

More often than not, when we give a relationship our “all” (which we often tend to do, because we love them!!), we end up sacrificing a lot. Then, when the breakup occurs, we don’t recognize who we are anymore, because over time, we began identifying ourselves in the eyes and hearts of our ex’s. As previously noted, we really may feel like foreigners in our own skins, and this is what can make the breakup so painful. Not only do we feel like we broke up with our ex’s, but we also somehow feel like we’ve broken up with ourselves! It can really feel like a double whammy!

However, during no contact, we have the opportunity to target the holes in our hearts and identifies, and fix them. Not only is the fundamental for you, but it’s also really important when it comes to your readiness and ability to be a great partner to your ex. As Coach Adrian and I have mentioned in several articles, it’s the personal development element of the breakup that is truly most important.

Let’s take a moment and go back in time: Remember when your ex met you? You were strong, you were mysterious, you were excited by the world around you and in turn really exciting to be around. This is the person that your ex remembers! Then, over the course of the relationship, you changed. Maybe you stopped doing the things you used to do in order to spend more time with your partner, or maybe you adopted new habits that you previously hadn’t considered because they were things that your ex enjoyed. Regardless of what you may have sacrificed or adopted, your ex doesn’t recognize you as the person that they met. Therefore, it became easier for them to exit the relationship. It’s much easier to walk away from a stranger than from the love of our lives, right? Consequently, In this circumstance, we then need to regain this sense of self to then re-attract our ex and rebuild the relationship.

In addition to letting our rediscovered sense of self and confidence attract our ex, it will also allow for us to feel good about ourselves, and this strength can prepare us to reach out to our ex’s and to handle whatever is on the other side of that outreach. For many who haven’t successfully regained their confidence and peace of mind, reaching out can make them feel the breakup all over again, as though it’s just happened. This can trigger another emotional collapse, and you’ll have to do the rebuilding process all over again. It can be very painful, and so I can’t stress enough the importance of personal development and self awareness.

Will my ex forget about me if I use the no contact : 3 ways to avoid that

Just because we aren’t speaking to our exs, doesn’t mean we can’t find ways to prevent our ex’s from not thinking about us. This is where the No Contact can actually be a little bit of fun! Remember, just because they aren’t reaching out, doesn’t mean they aren’t checking in. You may be constantly checking in on your ex, too, right? You two are habits for one another, remember? Your ex wants to see what you’re doing with all this free time you’ve gained. They’re also likely to be very curious as to who you’re spending new time with. I cant stress it enough: you aren’t the only one in the breakup wondering what the ex is doing. They’re also wondering the same things are you are.

Tip #1:

A great way to stay in the mind of your ex (and to help you stay there) is social media. Make sure to keep your social media updates to show your ex you are a better person and are continuing to live a fruitful life full of new activities.

Tip #2:

this is where my previous suggestion to try new things comes into play. If you only post things pertaining to your previous lifestyle, then your ex won’t be as intrigued to continue to check in. By staying the same, your ex will only re-affirm that you still aren’t the person you can invest in long-term. So, the more new things you do, the more your ex will see your changes and the more their curiosity will heighten.

Tip #3:

Lastly, always feel free to let social media serve to show how great you’re looking. While, in the movies, it’s normal for the broken hearted person to be pictured collapsed on the floor of their living rooms with a pint of ice cream and an avalanche of Kleenex, it’s important not to stay in this mode for too long. We don’t want ice cream, we want crunches! We want to show our ex’s that we look better than ever. This will remind them of your sexual connection and this is also very important. The sensual relationships we have with our partners can be very powerful elements to tap into during a breakup. This isn’t mean to insinuate that you should be sleeping with your ex, necessarily, but it should mean that they can still find you attractive.

Note: If you find it really hard to snap out of grieving, I would encourage you limiting yourself to 15 minutes of wallowing a day. That way, you get to satiate that need, without letting it dominate you. Believe it or not, this can really help. However, once those 15 minutes are up, you need to snap out of it and continue on your personal development journey!

Outside of the gym or whatever exercise or health/wellness routine you select, I think a really immediate way to show your ex how great you look is by wearing an item of clothing that they haven’t previously seen before. The change can be subtle and won’t require you investing in a new wardrobe. However, a new blouse or belt buckle, or a new hairstyle can immediately show your ex that you’re evolving and changing as a person and as a partner.

How to talk to an ex again after the no contact

When the No Contact element of the breakup is coming to an end, it’s normal to question how you’re going to go about reaching out to your ex when the time is right. I understand that it can be really nerve wrecking. However, we’ve come up with an almost fool proof plan when its to comes to this initial outreach. It’s the accountability letter approach. Never, ever underestimate the power of a great letter.

If you were previously wondering “will my ex forget about me if I don’t talk?” Well, not if you write a good letter! In a letter, you’ll have the opportunity to take accountability for the ways you contributed to dismantling the relationship. More specifically, you’ll have the chance to really list why things went wrong and how you’ve been able to correct these behaviors during no contact. If you write this letter correctly, your partner will be receptive and this can break the silence is a very positive way.

TIP ** If you feel like you aren’t a natural writer or like you aren’t sure how to go about writing the letter, it’s ok, we’re here to help. We have a product on our website, with my ex again, geared toward this exact process. We encourage you to take a look at it (it also includes samples!) and give it your best shot. If you’d like for us to revise and correct it, we can certainly arrange for that, too. In fact, we’ve helped several hundreds of people write these letters and send them.

One of the biggest mistakes we see in writing the accountability letter lends toward you consciously (or sometimes more ambiguously) asking for your partner back. Therefore, I really want to take a moment to clarify that THIS IS NOT A LOVE LETTER. This letter is not aimed at rekindling. Rather, it is aimed at repairing the ways in which your ex may perceive you or the breakup or the relationship in general. If your ex gets the impression that the goal behind this letter is to rekindle, they may in turn believe that all the changes you’ve claimed to have made are only plows to get your ex back, and therefore aren’t true changes. If this happens, all the work we’ve done is seen as a performance, rather than as permanent modifications. Therefore, beware of this! Make sure not to ask for your ex back in the letter!

Now, another huge mistake that comes with writing the letter is expecting to receive an immediate response. It it very natural to want an immediate turnaround. After all, you really just put yourself out there for the first time in a while. It’s scary! However, remember, your ex is also overwhelmed by having received the letter. They may need to take some time to process their thoughts and emotions before generating a response.

If you feel like you’re in the bunch who doesn’t receive an instant outreach from your ex after the letter, I insist that you do not try to reach out again, even if it’s to see if they’ve gotten it. If you do this, your ex will likely believe that you haven’t moved on and that if they’re responsive, the emotional floodgates will open and you’ll start writing them non-stop. Therefore, I invite you to really be patient right now. In these moments, I want you to reflect on how strong you were during No Contact, and let that strength carry you during this period. In extreme cases, where your ex doesn’t reply, I invite you to book a session with me so we can determine where the disconnect happened. These are very often correctable with enough notice of the situation.

Ultimately, I really encourage you no to worry about whether your ex will forget about you and the relationship during no contact. Using the tips I’ve outlined in this article and by understanding why No Contact can be tremendously beneficial, you should be in great shape to implement and manage with peace of mind.

I believe that you can do this, and I believe in the true potential of your success and ability to turn around your relationship and get back with your ex and person that you love and admire more. Using the information in this article, Alex, Adrian and I over at WMEA have helped hundreds of people get back with their exs.

If you have any questions about our methodologies and how they operate, or if you feel that due to a unique situation you are unable to implement the above strategy, please leave a comment in the field below. Our team is here to help support you throughout the entirety of this process. You don’t have to walk it alone.

I look forward to connecting with you.

Wishing you the very best,

Coach N.


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