Communication between a man and a woman has always been challenging. Whether it be over the phone, face to face, or in a handwritten letter, women have spent decades trying to understand the best ways to communicate and speak with their male counterparts. Now, we rely on text messaging with my male partners just as much (if not more) as any other communication platform. Are you someone who has considered the following questions to be OK? : ’Have something on your mind? Why not shoot your boyfriend a text?’ ‘Are you too mad to speak in person, then send a text!’ If so, beware! You may be setting yourself up for trouble. In short, knowing how to text a man is a really important tool to get a guy to kiss you. Don’t worry, though, you’re in the right place.
In this article, we’re going to tap into how to text with a man and elaborate on the “do’s and don’ts” of general communication with what men like. We’ll also go over what to text about with a guy, and even mention five mistakes to avoid when it comes to how to text a man you like. For those of you looking to just find tips on how to text a hot guy, we’ll have you covered there, too!
Before I dive in, I want to mention that this article is meant to be interactive, and so I truly invite you to leave a comment sharing your own texting experiences. Whether it be a story gone right or a story gone wrong.
How to text men : What you need to know
1/ The first thing to consider when learning how to text guys is what to text about with a guy. To start, guys are generally less emotional than girls, and so it’ll be important to avoid infusing too much emotion. For example, if you’re texting a guy about something, and you want to express an opinion, try mentioning what you think rather than what you feel. In short, use your head rather than your heart. Now, this isn’t the case for all guys nor is it the case once you enter a serious relationship. However, when we’re trying to kickstart a relationship and we’re just getting to know a guy, avoiding the emotional ‘mumbo jumbo’, as men like to think of it, will really help them be less afraid to engage with you. If they feel you’re coming on too strong emotionally off the bat, they may be a bit more reluctant to engage or continue the conversation.
2/ Next, it’s important to generally let the man lead the conversation. This isn’t to say that they’re meant to do or wanting to do all the work, but when it comes to how to text guys, they like to take the initiative more often than not. I understand that it’s 2017 and women are able to take as much as the reigns over the communication as they want, but I’m also a believer in a general sense of instinct and instinctively, men like to pursue something that they want. If you want to engage, go ahead, but if they aren’t providing the responses or attention you’re looking for, then retreat. Don’t worry, we aren’t hiding forever, but when it comes to things to text boys, it’s important not to overwhelm them or impede on their space.
3/ An additional tip that’s important to consider when it comes to how to text is a guy is not to be needy. I know, sometimes not being needy can be hard. Why? Well, because we’ve put ourselves out there and we want to be acknowledged! However, just because we want to get validation from our male counterparts, doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll be attracted to our emotional advances. On the contrary, they’ll likely be far from into your neediness.
– Ways to tell if you’re needy:
1. You send him messages even when he’s not responding
2. Insist on speaking when he’s mentioned he’s unavailable
3. Demanding of his time
4. Express anger or anxiety when it takes him a while to reply
4/ On the flip side of neediness, there’s neglect. This is another critical tip to consider when texting with a guy : how to not make him feel unwanted. Remember, there’s a fine line between making him engage and work for it, and making him feel dumb for continuing to reach out. So, when it comes to how to text a man you like, don’t leave him hanging! It’s important that he feels like you’re interested. So, if you’re busy and it’ll take you a really long time to reply, that’s fine – but reply! If you feel he’s the needy one, then ask yourself whether or not thing man is the guy you want to be texting with.
5/ The final tip to take into consideration when learning how to tech a man you like is knowing what guys like to hear. It’s something I am asked all the time in one on one coaching sessions with clients : “What do guys like to hear when texting?”. The answer it simple, compliments. Men love to feel empowered, so throwing out a few compliments here and there can really be helpful when texting a man you like. If he picks a restaurant you’ve been to before that you really like, you can acknowledge his choice or taste. The same rule applies with a genre of film or general insight on a topic. If you like what he’s saying or where he’s going with an idea, don’t forget to tell him!
Remember, the situation you are in may be very unique, and so it’s important to note that the above tips may not be directly relative to you. Love is not a one-size-fits-all approach, and it should never be treated like one. Many of my clients believe that the rules in this are universally applicable, but in reality, there are so many things we need to consider when it comes to situations like texting a guy you like. If you are unsure about what to do or how texting a guy you’re interested in will affect you and your love life, then I encourage you to seek some relationship coaching. It comes in handy to get that third party opinion and needless to say, venting can sometimes be the best therapy out there. Do not ignore your chance of successfully launching or maintaining your relationship while also feeling peace of mind. It can really make all the difference.
What to text about with a guy
When it comes to what to text about with a guy, it’s important to reflect on why you’re texting in the first place. Do you want this relationship to be the one you spend your life focusing on? Is this someone you envision yourself with long time? Are you just trying to text a hot guy and not expecting much? When you’re able to really identify what your motives are, you’ll be able to navigate through the waters of texting that much easier and more clearly.
If you’re trying to learn how to text a hot guy, I’m going to say that confidence is most important. Chances are, if you’re trying to text a hot guy, he knows he’s hot, and may likely have other women trying to get his attention. Therefore, confidence is going to be critical. It’s one of the sexiest characteristics out there. Even if you’re second guessing yourself on the inside, make sure not to communicate that in the text messages. This point relates to the above tip about implementing emotions into the dialogue. Just don’t do it!
I can’t mention texting a hot guy without taking a moment to emphasize that looks really (and I mean really!) don’t mean anything when it comes to developing a long term relationship. Sure, being physically attracted to someone is really important, but it will only matter if there’s more to it. If you aren’t fundamentally compatible and you’re wanting to know how to text a hot guy because it’s an ego-driven conquest, then make sure you’re walking into the situation without too high of expectations. I do not say this because you’re likely to put yourself in a position to get rejected, but more so because beneath that pretty or hot face is more important, and you may find yourself disappointed in the end if you only chased that face and not what’s behind it.
I hope that, overall, this article prepared you with necessary tools to consider when it comes to texting a guy you like or how to text and man you’re wanting to get to know or maintain a relationship with. Please know that no matter the situation, you can handle it well when you’re prepared. Reading this article puts you ahead of the curve, and so I commend you.
If you have any questions at all about the above content or to seduce a man, please feel free to leave a comment below. Or, if you have a text story or question you’d like to share or discuss, I also invite you to leave a comment below. This information is for you and I want to make sure it’s worth your while.
Wishing you the best always,
Coach Natalie
