Finding the one

How do I know if he loves me


In the beginning of a relationship, you can find yourself dying to know if your partner is in love with you. They haven’t said the Three Words yet so you think there’s no way to know for sure. There are however signs that can help clear things up in your head! Similarly, people in relationships that are past the honeymoon stage can start to wonder about the depth of their partners feelings as well. It’s a completely normal thing and guess what, there are ways to know what he’s feeling in this type of situation too!

A person wants to know if their partner is in love with them for all kinds of reasons from curiosity to insecurity. I’ve written this article to show you what to keep an eye out for if this question has been bugging you lately.

Every person is different and maybe your boyfriend isn’t very verbal about the way he feels. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “Actions speak louder than words” before, right? Well let’s get started and help you get a better idea of what you’re dealing with here!

He hasn’t said I Love You yet: How do I know if he loves me?

In the very beginning of a relationship, you’re in the honeymoon stage and everything is incredible. You’re on cloud nine and you feel like your emotions are on fire. You can’t stop thinking about your partner, you can’t get over how happy they make you, and you feel this burning inside of you…and you’re realizing that it’s Love.

You feel so good, and then a thought pops into your head. “Wait a minute…How do I know if he loves me, too?

There are so many things that you’ll notice; all you need to is to know what to pay attention to. For example, one of the most common signs of someone being enamored with you is if they’re mesmerized by them. Have you ever caught your boyfriend gazing at you with a twinkle in his eye for no reason? Maybe he’s even shy and looks away when you catch him. Being googly-eyed over someone is a pretty good sign!

Men in love are completely fascinated with their partner. They want to know everything about you and everything you say is interesting. They care about your opinion and they want to know what you think about things, what you want, and how you see your future. Think about it, would he be eagerly asking you about the future if he wasn’t planning on being a part of it?

Another obvious sign that he’s in love with you is if he’s talking about you to his friends and loved ones. If he’s proud of being the man at your side and is showing it off, it’s pretty safe to say he’s in love.

Is he affectionate with you? Even little gestures like putting his hand on your knee while you’re sitting together, or brushing your hair out of your face, are signs that he’s got some intense feelings for you. It’s an especially good sign if he’s affectionate with you in public! A man who’s not interested is not going to pretend…

Speaking of being proud, if he’s talking about introducing you to his friends, things are looking good. If he’s talking about introducing you to his family, I think it’s safe for you to say he loves me!

Other things that can help you gauge whether or not he’s in love with you are if he contacts you regularly, if he sends you sweet messages throughout the day, and if he makes an effort to spend time with you on a regular basis.

There are so many indications that he loves you, and it all boils down to one general rule: If he’s going out of his way to do things to make you happy and you can see that he’s thinking about a future with you, chances are that he’s fallen for you!

We’ve been together for a long time: Does he still love me?

When two people have been together for a long time, sometimes insecurities settle in. You begin to wonder if your partner still feels the same way about you, and as the honeymoon phase is over, you can find yourself wondering if the fact that they say “I love you” less frequently actually means something.

But just because your partner doesn’t say the words all the time doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you. It could just be that he feels you know it, and that the love between you two has been established.

Take a look at your relationship, and you’ll have a better idea. A man in love will make you their priority and they will be selfless. Not every second (because they have a life too,) but it should be a regular part of your relationship.

He’ll continue to go out of his way to make you smile, and he thinks you look amazing whether you’re dressed up or dressed down. He’s still there for you and still values your opinion. He still values together-time and goes to things that he knows you will enjoy (without whining about it!)

Don’t forget the little things. For example, he prepares a coffee for you in the morning while he makes his own, he calls you during the day to check in, he give you the better seat, and he takes care of you. Don’t take the little things for granted. People often overlook them and don’t realize how much they’d miss them if they weren’t there!

Another sign is when he confides in you or turns to you when he’s dealing with something tough.

The most blatant sign of course is when he actually says, “I love you.” It doesn’t get much more straightforward than that!

How to preserve love in a relationship

I’m sure you’ve heard people say that love eventually dies out in all relationships, but I don’t think that’s true. Sure, it will evolve, but it doesn’t just vanish. That said, there are things you can do to keep your love ‘youthful.’ Look for novelty and bring freshness into the relationship. Think of new activities and projects to share, do things for your partner, and go out of your way to make them happy.

Also, pay attention to how you interact. One of the most important things in a fulfilling relationship is how you communicate. Make sure that the things you say to your partner reflect the way you feel for them, and always pay attention to making them feel loved, safe, and cared for.

If you are dissatisfied with your lack of a concrete answer in terms of whether or not your partner loves you, you can always talk to them about it. It’s a delicate subject if it’s very early on in a relationship, as you don’t want to make your boyfriend feel pressured. But as you know, honesty and clarity are some of the foundations of happy relationships.

I wish you all the best!

Your coach for knowing if your significant other is in love with you

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Getting back with your ex

How to deal with Jealousy


There are actually more reasons for being jealous than a person might think. Do you ever feel very possessive but then when you think about the situation, you realize that there maybe isn’t much to worry about? Or have you noticed this trait in yourself throughout all of your romantic relationships? Is your jealousy warranted or does it stem from a deeper rooted issue?

In this article we will explore where your feelings of jealousy stem from, what to do about them, and how to make them subside. This is one of the most common emotions that people feel, and it can pop up in all aspects of life. Do you have a real reason to be jealous, or is it a bad habit that’s driving you nuts? Do you know what the key to overcoming it is? Keep on reading and you’ll learn all about how to deal with jealousy.

Why do I feel so jealous?

Sometimes you are jealous in a relationship because your partner seems to be getting close to another person. Sometimes it’s because other people are very interested in your partner. At work, you might feel jealous because someone is clearly the boss’s favorite and you don’t feel like it’s fair. And then other times you catch yourself feeling jealous and possessive but you don’t quite know why the feeling is so intense. Luckily, there are many ways to deal with jealousy.

The first thing to do of course is to assess the situation. Evaluate your relationship. Does you partner make you feel secure in the relationship? Is there trust and honesty between you two? Do you two feel comfortable in talking to one another about serious subjects? Does your partner easily share with you and are you sincere with one another? Most feelings of jealousy are rooted in fear.

The next step is to assess yourself. Think about your own past and whether it could be linked to these feelings. Have you been cheated on before? People that have experienced heartbreak as a result of their partner’s infidelity sometimes take a while to trust again. It can lead to lower self esteem and mistrust of their current partner.

Speaking of self-esteem, when you’re feeling very confident, do you still feel jealous? If you do, take a look at the situation and determine whether there are “red flags” that are making it hard for you to trust your partner.

A lot of people compare themselves to others and it makes them feel insecure. If you’re feeling this way, take some time to focus on your best qualities. Remind yourself of why you’re so special. You could even write it down. You don’t even have to keep the paper if you don’t want to, but just the act of writing down positive things about yourself can make you feel considerably better.

Don’t believe me? Try it!

What about your family background? Did you grow up in a family in which you received enough attention? Where your parents reliable?

All of these factors can play a role in why a person might feel jealous. It will take putting things into perspective if you want to fully understand why you’re feeling this way. It’s the first step towards dealing with jealousy and overcoming it!

My partner is making me jealous

Now if your partner is doing things that are clearly related to your jealousy, it’s time to talk to them about it. In a healthy relationship the two partners make one another feel secure. If your significant other is not doing this for you, you have to communicate with them about what you’re feeling in the relationship.

Sometimes a partner doesn’t realize that what they’re doing could make you so uncomfortable, so it’s important to make sure they understand. Be calm about your approach. If it gets you really worked up, take some time to center yourself, and then share your feelings with your partner after you’ve calmed down.

Don’t play games, and don’t try to make your partner jealous too. There’s no point to this and it can easily spiral out of control. Remember; if there’s an issue in the relationship, the keys are communication and honesty.

How to deal with jealousy

If you feel like there is a tangible, concrete reason behind your feelings of jealousy towards your partner, as I mentioned above, you two need to talk about it. Work on nurturing trust in your relationship.

Sometimes a person’s imagination can run wild. They can start imagining their partner in scenarios and they can get really upset thinking about something that’s not even happening! People daydream, and their thoughts get carried away. So, the next time you notice this happening, turn it to your advantage.

Try to create positive daydreams. Imagine your partner in situations that make you feel good! Use your imagination to make you feel better… not worse.

Start practicing awareness. Think about what the reality is, and what the current situation is. Focus on positive moments.

Another useful tip is to actually name your jealousy. Acknowledge it, because in doing so, it will become less powerful. If you say out loud, “I’m jealous of…” it will lose its intensity and you’re no longer embarrassed by it.

Is it ok to be jealous?

To be perfectly honest, a small amount of jealousy isn’t terrible. The key word is small… A little bit of it can actually serve as a nice little ego boost for your partner.

Imagine that you see some other interesting person chatting with your significant other. If you go over and say hi, your partner could take it as you being proud to be their partner and you want it to be known. You have to be careful though…. It’s a delicate thing and you never want to take it too far.

Jealousy becomes a problem when it starts creating tension between two people and when it begins to affect the trust in a relationship.

Work on figuring out the root of the issue, determine whether or not there is an actual problem, and then you will know how to proceed. Remember the importance of trust and security in a relationship, and both you and your partner need to make an effort to make the other feel safe.

If you feel that your possessiveness is stemming from something your partner is doing, you’ve got to discuss it with them openly. The more you let something simmer inside, the harder it will be to talk about while remaining calm.

Jealousy can tear a relationship apart so it’s crucial to nip it in the butt as early as possible. It’s a normal feeling that everyone feels at some point in their life, but that doesn’t mean that you should give it any power over you.

Wishing you all the best,

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Lifestyle & Well-being

I’m scared I’ll never find love


This is a feeling that more people experience than you might think. I have met so many people that tell me that maybe they’re just “not meant to be in a relationship” or “they’re not meant for love.” They say that it never works out for them or that they’ve never felt it before, so they must not have a soul mate. But what is the real reason behind this feeling? Is there something you’re doing that is negatively affecting the odds of you being with someone? Is there still hope?

Of COURSE there’s still hope! It’s a question of how you’re living your life, patience, and self-confidence. In this article we will explore what’s making you so doubtful, how to overcome this doubt, and how to rest assured that if you really want something, you will get it. You’ve got to overcome pessimism if you want things to change, and together we will look out how you can do that. Life is different for everyone, so you’ve got to learn how to ride the waves and make them deliver you to where you want to be.

Why am I scared I’ll never find love ?

As I mentioned above, this is a feeling that pretty much every person experiences at some point in their life. So the good news is that it’s totally normal and it’s not going to be this way forever! There are things that you can change in your life and in your mind that will facilitate the end of this doubtful period and I’ll get into that a little later on in this article.

As we begin to explore the subject together, I’d like to dive into why you’re thinking I’m scared I’ll never find love. In my experience, I’ve noticed that this pessimism most often comes about right after a breakup. A person can be so heartbroken that they think that their love life is over and done with for good.

They feel that they have just lost the love of their life and that there is no one else for them. A person can also feel that they don’t want anyone else on the planet other than the person they had just lost.

These are normal parts of the grieving process and maybe it’s exactly what you’re feeling right now. It’s hard to picture yourself with another person when the one you wanted just broke your heart. Maybe you’re so angry about what happened that you’ve decided that you’re done with love and you’d rather be alone than be hurt like this again. Again; not an unusual reaction.

But in reality things evolve and even if it sounds a little cliché, it’s true that when one door closes several other ones open up.

Another reason why a person would feel this way is because they’ve been single for longer than they would have liked. Perhaps you haven’t been successful in establishing anything satisfying and you’re starting to wonder if maybe there is no partner out there for you.

Now, how many people are on this planet? Have you met all 7 billion of them? You’ve perhaps dated your fair share, but just because you haven’t met the right one yet doesn’t mean that they’re not out there. It only has to work once…

Some people might be thinking I’ll never find love because they haven’t been dating anyone for a long time. They’ve been open to it (or maybe they haven’t!) but they just haven’t met anyone that they A. feel are worthwhile, B. have a mutual attraction with, or C. dare to approach.

This isn’t necessarily a trait only associated with shy individuals. Some people have a very specific idea of what love and relationships should look like in their head, and they have trouble accepting anything that doesn’t fit into that mold.

For example, some women feel that the man should be the one to make the first step. They could be mutually interested in one another, but if he doesn’t make the first move and approach her, she will change her mind or dissuade herself from being interested in him.

You’d be surprised at how often I see this. If you’re someone who really likes the idea of the man making the first move, make sure that you’re giving clear signs of your interest. This is a way to engage and facilitate the process, while being proactive.

Similarly, some men won’t pursue a connection if the woman doesn’t message them first. Some feel that it’s a question of gallantry, and others thing it means that the woman is uninterested. But if you’re honest and sincere in your approach, what do you have to lose? A simple, “I had a really great time with you” text is already a good step.

A key factor here is being proactive. If you want something, you’ve got to do things to bring it into your life. In terms of finding love, you can do as much as you feel comfortable with. It can be anything from a smile at a person that has caught your eye, to going over and talking to them. They say that in life, you regret the chances you don’t take more than the ones you do take.

Why you shouldn’t be pessimistic about finding The One

I know it’s hard to truly believe when you’re not experiencing it, but if you really want love in your life, you will have it. As long as that door is open and you’re doing your part to welcome it, it will show up. So many people make the mistake of comparing themselves to the people around them. They think, “Oh so and so is X years old and already married!!! And I’m not. Forever alone…” It’s silly.

In my opinion, each person can really benefit from time on their own. It allows you to learn so much about yourself, and to become self-sufficient. You don’t run the risk of becoming co-dependent when you are with a person, and you’ve had the time to figure out what you want!

Besides, a person can’t have a truly fulfilling relationship until they feel whole within themselves. Two halves don’t equal a whole in this situation. If you want a solid foundation in your relationship, you both need to be whole.

Take this time to really work on your own life; make it what you want it to be. If you have passions, focus on them and build them. Chances are, you’ll meet someone with whom you share these passions!

Meeting the right person really does sometimes happen out of the blue. In my experience, it tends to be when a person least expects it. It might be because self-sufficiency and focus on what is most important to a person attracts someone who matches that.

So Do You as they say, and enjoy life! There really is no point in having a negative attitude about being single. Closing doors will not let anyone in. Don’t convince yourself that there’s no one out there for you. Life has a funny way of working things out, and sooner or later, things fall into place.

Be approachable, be open to getting to know people, focus on what makes you happy, and don’t self-sabotage! I have seen so many people tell themselves, “It’s not worth it; it won’t work out anyway,” and not give a chance to something that could have been really great. I’ve also seen way too many people say that if they haven’t found anyone yet, then there must be no one for them.

Let me ask you this: If I asked you to describe a brand new color to me, could you? A new color… Not one that is a mix of anything. A color that you’ve never seen before. Just because you haven’t seen it, does it mean that it doesn’t exist?.

Rest assured, as long as you’re doing your part, your life will become what you want it to be. And remember, a negative attitude will only attract more negativity. If you’re always comparing yourself to others, you’re just going to feel bad about yourself and what good is that? You want to put the best version of yourself on display and be proud of who you are! So work on just that and you’ll see, you’ll start feeling better, and things will start improving in all aspects of your life.

All my best,

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Saving your relationship

Is my boyfriend cheating on me?


A lot of people find themselves wondering if their partner is two timing them. It can be triggered by something you saw on TV or in a movie, by something your friend told you, or by your gut. Once the idea pops into your head, it becomes easy to obsess over it but how do you know if it’s actually happening? Why are you experiencing this feeling? What are some signs that something might be up? And what do you do if he is being unfaithful? Throughout this article you will find answers to your questions along with some guidelines on how to handle the situation.

It’s not uncommon for a woman to begin to wonder, “Is my boyfriend cheating on me?” especially when they’ve noticed that something feels a little bit off. In life it’s very important to learn to pay attention to your intuition, and it’s also crucial to gauge whether there is actually something up or if this feeling is rooted in something else. Together we will explore the different roots of this suspicion, how to find out what’s going on, and what to do if you find out that your partner has strayed.

Why am I wondering if my boyfriend is cheating on me?

What does it mean when you have this feeling? There are a couple factors that can help you to pinpoint what exactly is going on. The first step is to determine whether there are reasons to worry, or if this is stemming from a deeper-rooted issue. The feeling can be triggered quite easily, especially if you’ve just watched a movie in which one of the characters is being unfaithful, or if you’ve just talked to a friend that’s been cheated on. You can easily start to think, “Hmm, could I be in the same situation?” You find yourself starting to pay very close attention to your partner’s words and actions, you start to be more aware of where they are throughout the day, and if you don’t live together, maybe you start making more and more plans to see each other. Before we dive any deeper into this article, let’s explore what the root of this feeling actually is. Think about what exactly sparked this thought. Did something happen? Did you see something odd take place, hear a secretive phone call, is there someone in particular that you feel has gotten a little too close for comfort to your man? Does your boyfriend have a history of cheating? There are plenty of reasons that could give rise to your suspicions. That said, there’s another reason that could make you wonder is my boyfriend cheating on me. Do you have a history of being cheated on? I am asking this because I have seen many people develop suspicions because they do not feel confident in their relationship and in themselves. So it is up to you to determine if this feeling is stemming from something external or from something internal. Has your boyfriend given you reason to worry or are there deeper trust-related or self-confidence related issues that need to be worked out? Oftentimes people that feel insecure within themselves will feel insecure in their relationships. If you feel that this is the case for you, go out and start a new project or a new physical activity in order to boost your self-confidence! Once you start feeling better in your own skin, perhaps these suspicions will subside. That said, if what I just described doesn’t feel like it’s the case for you, let’s explore some signs that may indicate that your partner is being unfaithful.

What are the signs that my boyfriend is cheating on me?

When looking for signs that your boyfriend is being unfaithful, it’s important to look at them objectively. Try not to spend hours on the phone with friends discussing every little detail because it could drive you nuts. Notice things and calmly ask him about his plans for the evening. Pay attention to how he reacts. Is he willing to share details of what he’s doing with you? Does he answer the phone when you call him? Some examples of shady business are when a person is very secretive with their phone (how does he react when you pick up his phone to look at the time?) when he never has phone conversations within hearing distance, if he gets defensive when asked about his plans or what he had been up to, when a he is very taciturn when it comes to your relationship, when he can’t be reached for long periods of time…
You can ask him. Do it calmly, have a conversation about it. You can initiate it at a moment when he’s not expecting it, and if he’s in the wrong you’ll be less likely to receive a well-thought out alibi. Choose your words wisely; you can tell him that you just want honesty and that you’ll both feel better once this is out in the open. If he’s been up to something, he’ll most likely feel relief that he can stop hiding and you’ll finally know what’s been going on.
If you don’t want to ask him and prefer a less direct yet more extreme route, you can opt for the old “check the phone” move. I am not an advocate of snooping and you might find something that you really don’t like. You have to be the judge. Another option is to ask one of his good friends, “Is my boyfriend cheating on me?” Chances are if something is up, this person will know about it and won’t feel too good about it either. In my opinion, an honest approach is always best. If you want to know what’s going on, open up to your partner about how you’ve been feeling, and make them feel comfortable enough to share openly with you as well. If you learn that your suspicions had been warranted, you will undoubtedly feel a wave of emotion but don’t worry, there are many tools to help you bounce back.

What do I do if my boyfriend is cheating on me?

If you’ve found out that your boyfriend is cheating on you, you are probably experiencing a plethora of emotions from hurt to rage to incomprehension. How could this happen, and how could he hurt you so much? You wonder what changed, and if this was all your fault. You hate the person you loved so much, and you can’t believe that you’re in this situation. The most important thing right now is to remember that you should not blame yourself. Sure, maybe there were issues in the relationship, but it’s important to note that these can be worked on through communication and honesty. I’ve seen a lot of women turn the situation around on themselves and think, “Maybe I wasn’t good enough, maybe I wasn’t attractive enough, or X enough, or Y enough…” In truth this is a coping mechanism, because if you think that you’re the cause of something, it means that you can be solution as well. You feel that it’s in your hands. Now part of that is great, and part of that is awful. You shouldn’t automatically blame yourself for being the victim of infidelity. The positive aspect, if you choose to continue your relationship, and if you feel that you are the root of some of the issues, is that you do have the power to change things that need to be fixed.
Other people become furious. Which is good. Be angry! But don’t seek revenge. Communicate your hurt and how you feel betrayed to the person that was unfaithful to you. But there is no point in seeking revenge. Two wrongs won’t make a right.
What you need now is to take some time for yourself. If you are finished with the relationship, take this time to heal. Remind yourself of all your qualities, what you love to do, what makes you such a unique and special person. Remind yourself of what people love about you, and everything you have to offer. Like I mentioned above, pick up a new physical activity. You’ll feel better in your body and you’ll meet new people and start having more fun. Spend time with your loved ones and you could even take a little weekend trip somewhere. Take this time to broaden your horizons, and prepare yourself for new adventures. Take advantage of the new doors that have opened for you and take life by the horns!
If you feel that you want to remain with your significant other and work through this issue, take this time to spend some time on your own, and to critically assess your relationship. Look at what wasn’t working, and remember what was working. Come up with solutions, and work with your partner to breathe life back into your relationship. Remember how it was in the beginning? Start doing the things you did at the start of your relationship again. Plan little getaways together, even if it’s just a day trip. Be romantic, make sure you both feel loved, appreciated, and desired. Cook for each other, leave little notes for your partner to find before they go to work. And most importantly, nurture communication. If there is something missing in your relationship, pinpoint it together and work on how to attain it. The key for healthy, faithful relationships is providing what the other needs, and in order to do so, you both must communicate what you require in order to feel fulfilled and happy.
If you learn that your partner had not been cheating on you, now is the time to express what had been making you feel so anxious. It’s crucial for your partner to know how to make you feel secure and safe in your relationship. Tell them that seeing them so buddy-buddy with their colleague who is clearly interested in them made you feel extremely uneasy, and ask them to respect your wishes and to keep it professional. One of the pillars of stable relationships is making your partner feel safe.
No matter what the case may be, the key here is to figure out what is right for you, and to make sure that you feel happy and at ease.

Best wishes

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Finding the one

What to do when you’re falling for someone else


You’re in a serious relationship but someone else has caught your eye. You feel like you’re caught between two possibilities and you’re not sure which way to turn. While each situation is unique, there are some guidelines to help you see clearly and to understand what you really want. What do you do if you’re in a relationship but you’re attracted to someone else? Why are you interested in somebody else? Do you tell your partner about it? What do you choose?

Sometimes when a person is in a relationship, they can be surprised with strong feelings for someone other than their partner. At first it might be exciting, then it becomes confusing, and if it goes far enough it can become very stressful.

It’s not easy to know what to do when you’re falling for someone else, but in this article you will learn ways to explore what you’re feeling and figure out what to do about it. There are a variety of factors that can help explain these emotions so you’ll have to evaluate the situation and your current relationship.

Why am I falling for someone else?

Take a moment to think about your current relationship. Is it brand new? If you haven’t been with your partner for a very long time and you’re already experiencing strong feelings for another person, it most likely means that A. you’re not very invested or B. you’re hesitant to commit.

This hesitation could be because you’re nervous to jump in to a full blown serious relationship, or because you’re not sure if your feelings are strong enough for your current partner. These are important things to figure out before proceeding.

If you’re in a serious relationship already, chances are that something is missing and you’re looking for it or noticing it in other people. When you are falling for someone else while you’re already in committed relationship, it should serve as a wake up call.

This is most likely a sign that you are currently unsatisfied.

Maybe you’re bored with the routine so you’re attracted to something fresh and exciting. Maybe your partner doesn’t share the same passions as you do, and this new person does.

What do I do if I like someone else?

The next step is the hardest. You’re going to have to make a choice. Once you’ve assessed the situation and figured out what exactly you’re feeling and why, you’ll have to decide whether you’re going to remain with your partner or pursue your new interest.

If you are in the beginning of a relationship, take some time to think about what you want and why you want it. It’ll be slightly easier for you, as emotions haven’t had the change to become extremely deep-rooted yet.

If you decided to leave your current partner, the cut will not be as deep. It’s up to you to decide which path you want to take. Remember, being true to one’s heart is of upmost importance.

If on the other hand you’re already in a committed and serious relationship, you’re going to have to think about what exactly is missing and gauge whether you want to repair it or move on. Think about whether it’s fixable or not, and how much you’re willing to invest.

That said, if you decide to stay, you will need to cut the cord with the “other person.” It’s impossible to fully focus on repairing your current relationship and restoring it to its former glory if you’re still eyeing someone else. It’s not fair to your current partner, and it’s not fair to yourself either.

Should I stay or should I go?

Only you can know the answer to this. You could take a little weekend getaway on your own to really clear your mind and reflect on where your thoughts are going. Imagine life without one of the two people. Which version do you feel better in? Leaving is a leap of faith, and staying means a little work. Which idea attracts you more?

Another thing you can do, (something very delicate,) is to talk openly to your current partner about what you’re feeling. Honesty is always important, and you might find peace in sharing with your partner.

It will hurt them, so you need to be careful with your presentation (and it’s up to you to gauge whether you should share this with them or not.) It’s important to protect your partner.

Maybe they’ve noticed a change and are wondering what’s going on. Perhaps they want to know what they can do to improve things. Keep in mind that this could easily cause them pain, so if your partner is very sensitive and prone to jealousy, perhaps it’s not a good idea to tell them that someone else has caught your eye and you don’t know what to do about it.

Each situation is different, and will require a fair amount of analysis. I know it’s hard to choose sometimes, but make sure you think it through all the way. You don’t want to have regrets in love.

If you’re really stuck, it could help to talk about it with someone you trust. They might have some useful advice for you and maybe just talking about it out loud will help clarify things. Perhaps they know your partner and can help put things into perspective for you in one way or another.

Take this opportunity to get to know yourself a bit better. Is this is the first time this is happening or have you seen this trait before? Have you been attracted to other people while in other relationships?

Perhaps you will have to do some work in the commitment department. Is this not the first time you’ve been attracted to this specific individual while you’re with someone else?

You will have to take a closer look at what exactly is so alluring about this other person. What keeps grabbing your attention and is it something that doesn’t exist in your current relationship?

Perhaps the person you’re falling for is someone you’ve already been with and maybe deep down you feel that your story isn’t quite finished.

These are all very important details that need to be acknowledged before you can know how to proceed.

If you decide to leave, my advice is to not tell your partner that you’ve left them because you were falling for someone else. Ideally, if you decide to leave, it should be because you are unhappy in the relationship; not because someone else is more interesting. This will help ensure that you don’t feel regret later on down the line.

Wishing you all the best during this confusing period,

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Finding the one

Why won’t he propose?


You’ve been with your boyfriend for a while now and you’re starting to wonder why he’s not taking it to the next step. Maybe you’ve dreamt of this since you were a little girl… Celebrating love with friends and family and sharing this special moment with the man you love as you build your life together.
You see your friends getting married or having kids and you’d like to be in the same stage of your life. It would be so exciting and you’d be so happy… And you’re thinking it’s about time. So why won’t he pop the question?

A lot of women find themselves at a point in their relationship with their significant other when they feel ready to get married, but their partner doesn’t seem to be making the first move. Most women want the man to be the one to propose, but can feel frustrated when he’s not doing so.

There are some very common mistakes that people in your situation make, and they don’t even know that they’re lessening the chances of making their man want to propose! In this article we will explore some of the reasons why your boyfriend could be holding back as well as what to do to make him more inclined to pop the question.

Why do I want him to propose now?

Have you been thinking this for a while now or is it a relatively new thought? I’ve seen a lot of people suddenly feel pressured to get married when they see their friends tying the knot left and right. It can turn into a subconscious competition, and they are comparing themselves to other people without even realizing it.

This just makes a person feel stressed out and in truth, it’s completely pointless. Just because your best friend is engaged, does it mean that your relationship with your partner is doomed if you don’t do the same?

Always remember to be careful with these types of comparisons. Your relationship is completely unique and has nothing to do with anyone else. It’s between you and your partner, and your marriage should not serve as some kind of contest. Of course this is a subconscious feeling (as I mentioned above,) but be careful of these types of thoughts.

Maybe your family has been putting some pressure on you. Unfortunately family members often do this without even realizing it. “So when’s the big day gonna be?” It starts to make you worry that maybe you should already be planning a marriage and you feel stressed out and you think why won’t be propose??.

These types of things can make you wonder if he’ll ever do it, and it can actually make tensions rise in the relationship. But more on that later.

Another reason why some people want to get married is that they actually fear losing their partner. In their minds, if they don’t make it official, their boyfriend will leave them. This isn’t a healthy way to think. I’m sorry to put it so bluntly, but the foundations of a healthy and happy relationship are trust, and the feeling of security.

If you’re not feeling like your relationship is built to last, work on strengthening the bond between you before you start focusing on marriage. Remember, there’s no reason to be in a rush! Enjoy the relationship and everything falls into place when the time is right!

Perhaps you want to get married for none of the reasons above. You just feel ready. Plain and simple. You’ve been together for X amount of years, you’re in love, and this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. You want to have kids, and maybe you don’t want to do that before you two are married.

You just feel like you’re ready to take this step together and begin a new, exciting chapter together. You’re both so happy together and you can’t imagine life without him.

So why hasn’t he popped the question?

Why won’t he propose?

There are so many reasons why a man may be hesitant to ask for someone’s hand in marriage, and in most cases, it’s not the end of the world and it DOESN’T mean that he’ll never ask you. Some men just need time.

More often than not, a man is happy in the relationship and is already very satisfied with the way things are. I’ve heard many men in my group of friends say that they’re not against the idea of marriage; they just don’t exactly understand what it changes. If the relationship is already great, what does a ceremony and a piece of paper do?

A way to gauge how your partner feels about marriage is to talk to them about it and pay attention to their reaction. If he’s calm and talks about it with ease, chances are that you’re more or less on the same page and it will happen in the relatively near future.

If he becomes moody and closed off, he might be a person that doesn’t believe in marriage. There are a lot of men and women that don’t believe in it simply because they either don’t see the point, or are afraid that it will change things. Your partner could be so happy with the way things are that they’re nervous that the dynamic will change if you go through some big ceremony.

Some people are also very pessimistic when it comes to marriage. You hear people say all the time that more than 50% of marriages end in divorce. Your partner might not want to risk that, because they want to stay with you happily ever after.

What does your partner say when you ask them their thoughts on the subject? Keep in mind, your approach has to be very relaxed.
Speaking of which, let’s talk a bit about the no-no’s of getting your boyfriend to propose.

What not to do when you want your boyfriend to ask for your

In this situation, the absolute worst thing you could possibly do is to pressure them. The more your boyfriend feels forced to marry you, the less they will want to do so. It’s a huge step, and can you imagine someone pressuring you to make such a huge commitment?

Similarly, if you really do care about this person and you really do want to spend the rest of your life with them, steer clear of the dreaded ultimatum. Do not ever, and I mean EVER say, “Marry me or I’ll leave you.”

Let’s think about this. Would you really want to marry someone because you in essence forced them to do so? How would it feel whenever you thought about it down the line, knowing that he didn’t plan proposing to you because he wanted to, and because he wanted the share the rest of his life with you, but because you told him that he’d lose you all together if he didn’t?

The best thing to do is to make him happy. Enjoy your relationship, be enthusiastic, have fun together, work on bringing joy and excitement. The more alive and happy he feels in the relationship, the more he will want to spend his life with you!

Similarly, the more you pressure and suffocate him, the less he will want to propose.

Another thing to do (which is important at any stage of your life,) is to concentrate on making your personal life exactly what you want it to be. Work on your hobbies, your projects, and your goals, and be proud of what you’re doing. Men respond very positively to a strong, independent woman that is enjoying life and taking it by the horns. They respond negatively to neediness and arm-twisting.

Focus on making your relationship amazing so that he’ll want to make it last forever!

Wishing you all the best

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