In the beginning of a relationship, you can find yourself dying to know if your partner is in love with you. They haven’t said the Three Words yet so you think there’s no way to know for sure. There are however signs that can help clear things up in your head! Similarly, people in relationships that are past the honeymoon stage can start to wonder about the depth of their partners feelings as well. It’s a completely normal thing and guess what, there are ways to know what he’s feeling in this type of situation too!
A person wants to know if their partner is in love with them for all kinds of reasons from curiosity to insecurity. I’ve written this article to show you what to keep an eye out for if this question has been bugging you lately.
Every person is different and maybe your boyfriend isn’t very verbal about the way he feels. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “Actions speak louder than words” before, right? Well let’s get started and help you get a better idea of what you’re dealing with here!
He hasn’t said I Love You yet: How do I know if he loves me?
In the very beginning of a relationship, you’re in the honeymoon stage and everything is incredible. You’re on cloud nine and you feel like your emotions are on fire. You can’t stop thinking about your partner, you can’t get over how happy they make you, and you feel this burning inside of you…and you’re realizing that it’s Love.
You feel so good, and then a thought pops into your head. “Wait a minute…How do I know if he loves me, too?”
There are so many things that you’ll notice; all you need to is to know what to pay attention to. For example, one of the most common signs of someone being enamored with you is if they’re mesmerized by them. Have you ever caught your boyfriend gazing at you with a twinkle in his eye for no reason? Maybe he’s even shy and looks away when you catch him. Being googly-eyed over someone is a pretty good sign!
Men in love are completely fascinated with their partner. They want to know everything about you and everything you say is interesting. They care about your opinion and they want to know what you think about things, what you want, and how you see your future. Think about it, would he be eagerly asking you about the future if he wasn’t planning on being a part of it?
Another obvious sign that he’s in love with you is if he’s talking about you to his friends and loved ones. If he’s proud of being the man at your side and is showing it off, it’s pretty safe to say he’s in love.
Is he affectionate with you? Even little gestures like putting his hand on your knee while you’re sitting together, or brushing your hair out of your face, are signs that he’s got some intense feelings for you. It’s an especially good sign if he’s affectionate with you in public! A man who’s not interested is not going to pretend…
Speaking of being proud, if he’s talking about introducing you to his friends, things are looking good. If he’s talking about introducing you to his family, I think it’s safe for you to say he loves me!
Other things that can help you gauge whether or not he’s in love with you are if he contacts you regularly, if he sends you sweet messages throughout the day, and if he makes an effort to spend time with you on a regular basis.
There are so many indications that he loves you, and it all boils down to one general rule: If he’s going out of his way to do things to make you happy and you can see that he’s thinking about a future with you, chances are that he’s fallen for you!
We’ve been together for a long time: Does he still love me?
When two people have been together for a long time, sometimes insecurities settle in. You begin to wonder if your partner still feels the same way about you, and as the honeymoon phase is over, you can find yourself wondering if the fact that they say “I love you” less frequently actually means something.
But just because your partner doesn’t say the words all the time doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you. It could just be that he feels you know it, and that the love between you two has been established.
Take a look at your relationship, and you’ll have a better idea. A man in love will make you their priority and they will be selfless. Not every second (because they have a life too,) but it should be a regular part of your relationship.
He’ll continue to go out of his way to make you smile, and he thinks you look amazing whether you’re dressed up or dressed down. He’s still there for you and still values your opinion. He still values together-time and goes to things that he knows you will enjoy (without whining about it!)
Don’t forget the little things. For example, he prepares a coffee for you in the morning while he makes his own, he calls you during the day to check in, he give you the better seat, and he takes care of you. Don’t take the little things for granted. People often overlook them and don’t realize how much they’d miss them if they weren’t there!
Another sign is when he confides in you or turns to you when he’s dealing with something tough.
The most blatant sign of course is when he actually says, “I love you.” It doesn’t get much more straightforward than that!
How to preserve love in a relationship
I’m sure you’ve heard people say that love eventually dies out in all relationships, but I don’t think that’s true. Sure, it will evolve, but it doesn’t just vanish. That said, there are things you can do to keep your love ‘youthful.’ Look for novelty and bring freshness into the relationship. Think of new activities and projects to share, do things for your partner, and go out of your way to make them happy.
Also, pay attention to how you interact. One of the most important things in a fulfilling relationship is how you communicate. Make sure that the things you say to your partner reflect the way you feel for them, and always pay attention to making them feel loved, safe, and cared for.
If you are dissatisfied with your lack of a concrete answer in terms of whether or not your partner loves you, you can always talk to them about it. It’s a delicate subject if it’s very early on in a relationship, as you don’t want to make your boyfriend feel pressured. But as you know, honesty and clarity are some of the foundations of happy relationships.
I wish you all the best!
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