Whether you’re in a new relationship or have been in one for a long time, it’s normal to ask yourself the following question : how do you know if she loves you ? Sometimes, our personal insecurities, fears and/or perspectives can make knowing or identifying this challenging, and so, I wanted to take some time to write a brief article about it. If you’re looking for tips on how to know if she loves you, you’ve come to the right place. Let’s get started.
In reality, love is a blend of two things : love is a verb (full of actions !) and also, love is an attitude. Therefore, If you’re trying to find out how to know if she loves you, it’s going to be in her actions and in her attitude.
Take a moment to ask yourself some of the following questions : How is my girlfriend treating me ? Does she think of me in and throughout her daily activities ? Does she tend to the relationship, or ignore it ? These questions are critical when trying to determine how to know if she loves you. The answers to these questions will vary, depending on who is reading this article. Most often than not, however, it’s the woman who tends to the relationship, is emotionally present throughout it, and who thinks of you, that loves you.
How to know if she loves you, why is it so important ?
Identifying how to know she loves you is important, because for obvious reasons, it’s a huge element of any relationship. More specifically, knowing if she loves you will allow for you to be more transparent, let your guard down, and also help you give love in return.
If you’re able to do these things, your relationship can continue to develop with healthy and visible parameters for both people to follow. Love can be scary, but if she loves you, and you love her, it can be truly be the best feeling in the world.
Signs to know that a girl loves you : be careful of the mistakes
As I previously mentioned above, when a girl really loves you, she will show you she does by continuous tending to the relationship and by thinking of you and incorporating you into her daily activities. An example of this can be when she’s grocery shopping : does she bring things that only she will enjoy, or will she put in a little something that you will, too ? Even little gestures, like this one, can illustrate one of the many ways to know she loves you.
However, if you’re reading this article in hopes of identifying when a girl really loves you, be careful of the mistakes you can make when putting her love to the test. What this means is, if your efforts to see her love come off as needy, you may actually be pushing her further away.
Neediness often lends to insecurity, and insecurity isn’t very attractive in the eyes of a partner. She will begin to question your confidence and your overall sense of self – if she does, her love may in turn dwindle. Don’t forget, confidence is sexy ! If you’re wondering if you’ve been too needy, I encourage you to browse through our articles on this topic (we’ve curated a bunch to help you identify this and fix it !)
How do you a know if a woman loves you : 3 real signs
Before you feel the need to test your girlfriend in search of the answer to the question of if she really loves you, I’m going to try to help, by identifying 3 real signs that are often present when a girl loves you :
1/ Wanting to nurture you – if a woman loves you, she’s going to want to build a true bond with you. Women are nurturers and ‘nesters’ by nature, and so, if you sense that she is looking after you, checking in with you and coddling you, it’s likely because she really loves you.
2/ She’s emotionally invested – when a girl loves you, she’s going to emotionally invest in you. This means, the things you say and how you treat her will affect her on an emotional level, and not just a logical one. She may cry if you treat her harshly or express ‘missing’ you when you’re away. When you’re intimate, she won’t only treat it as a sexual release, but also as an emotional experience.
3/ Interested in future plans – This is a sure sign associated with how to know if she loves you. If she mentions or entertains ideas of future plans and/or activities with you, she’s planning on keeping you around. Generally, women don’t make plans with people they are considering disposing of. If she’s talking about future decisions, you’re in luck, because she definitely is really into you.
Your Expert,
Coach Nat
